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I seem to have started drama over a boy and don't know how to deal with it.
I'm in a long term relationship with a guy I love completely. Thing is, in the past handful of years I haven't thought of anyone else but him until now. I've developed a crush on a co-worker and I let him and my boyfriend know. Re-read that, my boyfriend knows. And he's cool with it in that he isn't threatened by it and trusts me to respect him and our relationship.
Now this co-worker's just recently started seeing another co-worker and she seems to have found out and told another co-worker about it and is having "words" with other co-workers about me without talking to me. High school, am I right? Let's call my crush A, his girl B, and the other co-worker C.
Now C asks me if I'm still with my boyfriend and other related questions. Any and all interaction with B after my conversation with C was just subtle cruelty. She started alluding to me being a slut, that my legs are always open because I'm a slut, you get it? I'm a slut! She would give me rude faces, "punch" me in the gut, verbally show disgust with me saying things like "Ew" when she passed me. I overheard her and another girl talking about how I'm ugly and yet they act sweet-as-sugar to my face. C hasn't spoken to me since our conversation about my boyfriend and B has just been straight up two-faced. She's posting a lot of "Me and A" type things on Facebook and I get it, he's taken, she's his, she's won. Whatever.
Thing is, I. Don't. Want. This boy. She can keep him. I have feelings I do not want and I expressed them to her man because I don't keep things to myself well. It would've come out sooner or later and I figured now would be better than when he's really serious with her. The only guy I want is the guy I'm with right now. No doubt about that, but I'm getting the feeling that she's telling everyone at work about my "involvement" with her and her guy.
I'm not warmly received when I come into work like I usually am. No one's there to tell me goodbye when I leave. And the slut "jokes" are starting to get to me. I'm not trying to steal her guy, but she's acting all alpha about it. I realize now that I should have kept the crush knowledge between me and my boyfriend and left my crush out of the situation as this whole drama-fest wouldn't have happened.
How does one react in this situation? I get I'm the bad guy here. I just want this all to stop. What can I do?
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Ignore it, or look for a new job?
You are right: You should have kept your crush to yourself. It was drama-seeking to share that kind of information with a guy when you had absolutely no intention of ever acting on it - and you got drama.
You aren't 'the bad guy' but you gave a bunch of near-strangers ammunition against you - for no reason - and one of them used it.
You can ignore the lot of them until it blows over, or you can look for another job.
It will probably blow over, sooner or later, especially if you hold your cards close to your chest. If the name-calling crosses the line to overt, you could take it to a supervisor, but your best bet, if you feel the environment is poisoned, a new job might be the best.
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