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Do I keep on with leaving him?
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. We are both scorpions, which makes arguments really crazy at times. We like to fight till we win. So last week we got in an argument because he heard a message where my friend and I were making fun of a guy that was drunk. He would not take the time to listen to me to at least hear my side of the story. Instead he was busy creating his own theories of what happened. I tried to let him know that I also wanted a chance to speak but he kept on going so I told him that if I can't talk he can't either. I started blocking my ears and he got so angry that he pushed my head and it hit the window to the side. I was so shocked!!!!! By the way this was in the car. I got a hold of my purse but then he kept driving and leading us towards the view of the city. Right when the car was close to the top of the hill he said " you see that? You and I are going to roll down that hill". This was after I had told him that it was over. I started balling my eyes out because I was scared. He then stopped the car and started trying to hug me. Long story short, his excuse for scaring and emotionally abusing me was that he was trying to calm me down and keep me from running away in the night. We haven't talked for almost a week and I am dying. He tried brought me flowers and chocolates but I told him that was not going to fix anything. I feel like if I go back with him I am risking having the same thing happen, or worse. I feel like if we were to get back together it would not be now because he needs to know that what he did is not right..even if he didn't really mean it...what do you guys think about the situation? Thank you for reading.
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I couldn't possibly disagree with gotchalk8 more. It's one thing to give a guy a second chance if he got drunk and kissed another girl, or if he forgot your birthday - but you don't give a guy a second chance to threaten your life.
Your first instinct was the right one: It's over.
He hit you and threatened your life. That's not 'Scorpio's fighting'. That's not anything to with astrological signs.
His response to a stupid fight, where you were both behaving badly, was to shove you, while driving, and then threaten to roll the car down a hill.
That's insane. That's abusive. That kind of massive error in judgment doesn't get fixed over night. Sorry doesn't cut it.
Stay single, and work on finding more mature and productive ways to disagree with people - being a Scorpio is no excuse for putting your hands over your ears like a toddler. It's absolutely not your fault what happened, but you can, and should, try to behave better - with someone else.
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I'm also a scorpio! But I heard a rule one that I completely agree with. Always give the guy a second chance but after that it's over for good. Try calling him and calmly ak him to come over. Don't tell him why even if he won't come because he doesn't know. If you do this he will find it hard to not go. WHen he gets there be chill about everything and try not to fight. Accept anything he brings you that is nice and tell him that he has another chance. But make sure he knows it i his last chance. I hope I helped :)
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