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What should i do about my guy friend??
22/F
Okay let me start out by saying we have ALOT of history! we first met back in the summer of 2007 before he left for college..we ended up being hooked to the hip together day/night everything he left for school came back and always saw me i ended up getting pregnant by him but due to being so young and both of us not ready we did not have the baby. we stayed connected as friends nothing more i ended up in a relationship in 2009 we still talked and saw each other when we could i eneded up in 2010 getting pregnant and like always he was there for me saying how much he cared and loved me..2011 i had my baby and was now a single mom due to my xboyfriend not wanting to be in the picture anymore..not even a month after having my baby he came in town to see us it felt like old time all over again but that was in august now i wouldnt see him til one night in October he asked me out on a date.. my heart was running circles.we went out for drinks and out to the movies..the night was perfect we acted like a couple again kissing hugging then after we eneded up having sex, after that night we talked daily nightly everything.. in november he came back in town and we did the same thing drinks and movie..but this time was different he was weird.. after we sat and talked for a very long time he ened up saying he was still in love with his ex and cant get over her..he looked at me and i had tears in my eyes he asked what was wrong but i couldnt get it out until i left and sent him a text with how i felt but i told him not to say a word back. i saw him the next day before he left things felt weird..he came back in December for break and we didnt really see each other but for like 5 times..he came to say bye like always said it was his fault we were growing apart i text him and said its better we just didnt talk because i was only hurting.. then he came in town Febrary (this past weekend)and i didnt think anything was gonna happen but for us to talk and hang out as friends but he came on to me very strong and kissed me then of course we ended up having sex.. but after it got very weird because he didnt want to have sex til marriage (new thing he was on) but he ened up cuming inside me and i wasnt on any birth control so we talked about getting the plan b i told myself i wasnt going to text him at all so i woke up and did my own thing that whole next day he text me asking what i was doing i told him out shopping but told him i would go get the pill because i knew thats what he wanted to know..he said it wasnt..whatever.i blew him off and handled it myself. then sunday he left and didnt even try to come see me before he hit the road. i told him how alone i felt in the situation he told me that wasnt the case and when i asked him what was the case i got no answer....so now im lost as ever i sat up crying all night because i promised myself not to let him in again..what do you do in a situation like this?! i need help!! i feel empty inside.
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I'm going to try my hardest to answer this for you. Your situation is hard because of the boy. He is confusing and giving you mixed signals, which isn't right.
1) you need to see what it is he wants. Does he want you? Does he want a relationship with you? Does he have feelings for you in that way still? Is he over his ex?
Figure out those questions first.
2)Think back on what he says (if it helps write it down, word for word what he said, so later on you aren't questioning the things that he said) and try to focuse on if his answers were what you were hoping for.
3) If they aren't what you were wanting to hear, like "I'm still in love with my ex; I don't want a relationship right now; ect - than you have everything you need to move on.
If he is only contacting you when its convient for him, than that isn't fair to you, is it? No, it sure isn't.
You have a child. You are a mother. You and your child deserve a stable man, because from my understanding, the baby's father isn't stable either.
You need a man who will be a good example for your child. Someone who can be the man YOU have dreamed of helping you raise a child.
Once you figure out that you want/need to move on, you need to get your number changed so he doesn't have it. That is the only way that you can avoid him with a cell phone. Being a female, when a guy texts me that I am crazy about but I need him out of my life; I'll read the text, and try to ignore it; but than my mind is like "text him back and ask this, and this and this and see what his excuse is, or blah blah blah"
This will help prevent the urges to text him, or even text him back when he texts you out of the blue.
When he comes to visit, avoid him. If you see him, look the other way. You even need to let him know while your ending things, tht if he's coming back to town, to not contact you or even see you because you are tired of being a door mat and you need a real man, not someone who is playing with your emotions like its a game.
Those are really the only tips I can give you. If you really want it to be over, and not let him back in; you will find ways to make sure that happens.
Good Luck to you; and if you want to talk more, you can inbox me!
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