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Should I wait?
Ok so, I've been dating/dated this girl for over a month. It took off pretty fast, we only talked for 3 weeks but we spent a lot of time together and did so much for each other those 3 weeks. She actually asked me out on a surprise picnic. Well anyways to the problem, she recently got to thinking about her future since she will be graduating soon and doesn't know exactly where she wants to go to college but when she does go she wants to be single. This all happened last Saturday and I took it pretty hard but I want her to happy. Then this past Friday, she called and we talked more about it. She said that her heart was telling her that she needed to be independent for awhile, it had nothing to do wit me at all. She still wants to talk and stuff and she still really likes me. But what do I do? Should I be there for her and wait or just let go?
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Listen to your heart. I cant stress this enough. Sometimes you have to listen to your brain, other times with your heart. This is one of those times. You should ask yourself this question. If you think you should keep in touch, do just that. Also, talk about things when you have a problem with anything. I'm slowly learning to do that more often myself. I notice that I do feel better afterwards.
BUT if anything you choose to do is out of greed or insecurity, then DO NOT do it !!! Get over her, if this is the case, because for a lot of people, insecurity is a bright-red flag.
If you want to wait, then wait. Again, this is a question for you to ask yourself. We can't decide for you because we don't know what you're feeling.
Good luck !!! I hope I helped or at least made you smile, or something
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The answer seems to be that its up to you. Obviously, you and this girl connected and liked each other, the relationship would possibly have continued were she not going to college. While in college she will meet other people and other relationships will form. That doesn't mean your relationship with her must stop of course, but it will change, through the physical distance and the new life she's leading. You could be a friend from 'back home' she meeets now and then, an ex-boyfriend who keeps in touch, a current boyfriend even. Who knows?
Between you, you will make a 'contract', friends, close friends, boy-girlfriend, there shouldn't be a problem; as long as you both understand and accept the terms of the 'cntract'.
I'd suggest that if you want to maintain contact with her, do so after agreeing on mutually accepted terms. If you wish to have other relationshiops, so does she etc. In this way, both of you know what to expect of the other, no secrets or shocks on either side.
Hope this helps, let me know what happens and how you get on? Best wishes.
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