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Should I break up with my boyfriend?
14/f
Hi, I've been dating a guy for approximately a month and a half, going on two months. He is really nice and sweet, but I feel like I might want to break up with him- but at the same time I don't. Here's the thing- he is incredibly socially awkward, to the point that it sometimes becomes excruciatingly embarrassing and uncomfortable when in group situations. He also dressed very poorly, and wears the dorkiest jeans ever (it's honestly like he doesn't even see the other guys in the school) and, I recently found out, was regarded as a dork at his old school. I am a freshman in high school, and he came from a different feeder school than myself, so I didn't know him until this year. It's just embarrassing me now, because so many people say to me "you're dating ______?!?!" in a horrified kind of tone. I'm thought of as pretty, and everyone who I tell that I'm dating him tells me that I can do better. I don't care about popularity, and I would completely disregard his reputation if I didn't see where it was coming from. However, I do see where it's coming from, because his personality is soooo awkward- he just doesn't know how to be normal around people. So I wouldn't want to date him. But I'm conflicted because, when just around me, he can be kind of funny, he laughs at what I say, and he's super nice. He's very passive and thinks I'm completely happy with him. It would come as a major shock if I dumped him. Hes not that unattractive either, and i find him cute- but almost in a little boy way- not like a...teenagery way. There is also the issue of this guy-friend of mine who I'm like 97% sure likes me. I'm starting to like him too. What should I do?! My current boyfriend is sooo nice, I mean it would kill me to hurt his feelings. But I just don't know. Also, we're going to this school dance together in about two weeks, and I don't want to end it before then and have no one to go with (everyone has already been asked.) But I also would feel bad going to the dance and giving him a fun time and then ending it soon after. We haven't kissed yet, but I think we would at the dance. I can hurt his feelings. He hasn't done anything wrong. I'm so back an forth on this issue. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!!
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I think you are being way to hard on the guy, Reputation and popularity should never even be an issue. Dating someone is about getting to know who they are, Enjoying time with them and just being happy with that person. NEVER let someone else's opinion get in the way of you being happy. The key to a relationship is being happy, communicative and honest with each other. If he is kind, funny and treats you right then what is the problem? It only becomes a huge deal if you let others get to you. This guy has feelings and you in his eyes are someone that actually excepts him for who he is. If he isn't really great at dressing them maybe you could offer to take him to the mall and just pick out clothes you think would look really good on him without being rude about it. Don't dump the poor guy because other people don't think he's all that, It's not about what you look like. If you dump him because of what others think then you only scoop down to their level and you could miss out on a great opportunity to have a real relationship. That's the problem nowadays especially with the younger generation, They all about what the person looks like, popularity etc. but I promise you later in life that is the least of your worries. If the guy makes you happy, Then be happy with him. If someone else buds their nose into it then you simply tell them "Yes I am dating him! he is the most amazing person I've ever met" and you walk away. Stand up for your relationship, Don't put him down. In the end......people envy a great relationship ;) Be happy!
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