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I wanna help my friend but can't
I have this friend who I am very close to, and I don't know what I'd do without her. After being friends with her for 7 years, I think we know eachother quite well. However, recently she's had a boyfriend who has a 3 year old child and is still fairly close to the child's mother (his ex fiancee). Today, we saw them together with their child just walking around town which he never does with my friend, even though theyre going out. Also, this guy always seems to make more of an effort which his ex fiancee than with my friend. I gave her some advise and said to ask him up front whats going on, and give him a choice- his ex or her (because i think they still have feelings for eachother). I don't think my friend is going to take my advise because she loves this guy more than I've ever known her love a guy before... she doesnt wanna let him go even though she cant trust him... The thing is, I can see that she is going to get hurt and it's begginning to effect me because I cant' stop it :( I just don't know what else i can do :( I wanna make her feel better because she's my best friend and thats what friends should do... but i just don't know how to anymore :(
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You've got to keep in mind that this woman is the mother of his child. So if your friend gives him the option "me or your ex" he is more than likely going to choose his ex, because she is the link to his child. Plus, having a child together is one of the strongest bonds so its only natural that they are very close, and if they wanted to be together, they would be as it would give the child a more stable life as well. So i doubt that they do still have feelings for each other in that way.
There isn't you anything you can really do for your friend as, as much as we dislike it, people have to make their own mistakes.
So i suggest all you do is support her, and be there for her if it does end badly.
Hope everything works out x
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