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I don't know how much longer I can fight off this INCREDIBLE lust I have for him.
This guy and I have been friends for about three years. He means the world to me. He's seventeen, a senior. I'm sixteen - girl, junior. Long story short, we've been through so muh together. He is my best friend. And sometimes, yes, I think I have feelings for him. But we've never ever talked about the possibility of us being together. Not seriously at least. He says I'm like a sister to him, but he would gladly fuck me anytime. haha. I really do care about him though. He just recently broke up with a girl he'd been dating for seven months. He called me right before and I went to go see him right after because he was pretty upset. I never liked him dating this girl but I pretended to be happy for him because I knew he really liked her. I was nice to her because I knew how much it would hurt him if I told him I hated her. He would have broken up with her. We are sooooo flirty with each other and he constantly hits on me and asks if we can be fuck buddies. Even when he was dating her, he'd bring up this inside joke about me owing him a blow job, and how when he's single I better pay up. Sometimes I really think he means it. And sometimes the idea is tempting. Of just letting myself hook up with him. My feelings for him are sooo confusing but we have never been able to deny that we both are extremely physically attracted to each other. We're very touchy with each other. Hugging, cuddling, wrestling, sitting in his lap, holding his hand. Bit we've never kissed. Im almost positive he's never had any doubt about how hes felt about me. He tells me he loves me and he couldn't live without me. I know everything about him. We text everyday, hang out every weekend,but he's made it clear he doesn't see me as someone he could ever be in a relationship with. Somehow, in my gut, I know were perfect for each other. I know well be together one day. But right now I don't know how much longer I can fight off this INCREDIBLE lust I have for him. It's just too many emotions, too many feelings, and I don know what to do or how to handle any of it. Please help me.
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The friendship is doomed. You can't like someone like this and be friends with him. Jump on it now before he starts dating someone else.
Walk up to him. Kiss him. Tell him "That's all you get until you take me out on a date. I can't be friends with someone I like the way I like you."
Either way, that'll get you where you need to be. If he can't date you, he can't date you and you're fucked in the non sexual sense. If he can, that'll put it on the table as "it's time, step up".
You can't just keep waiting for him to make a decision.
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at the moment you are completely right about lusting for him and lust isnt bad but it shouldnt be confused with love.
your friendship could be in danger if u became friends with benefits because as the physical attraction went elsewhere, your left feeling used.
if you got into a relationship the situation might b the same. you both sound extremely attracted to each other so let it happen. kiss him one day and see what happens.
you will never know until u try but the relationship will not be the same
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I was in a similar situation a few months ago. One day, he just stopped talking to me. I found out just recently that he started dating my best friend then...So basically based of personal experience, if he shows that you two could never be in a relationship, you should try to avoid getting too close. Because from it sounds like, he seems to be leading you on. And all it'll serve to do in the end is hurt you. So keep him as a friend if you feel like you can, but I would avoid all the flirting because it could make you more vulnerable to getting hurt by him. Good luck with everything :)
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