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parents are wayyyy too strict! "/
sooo im almost 15 and my parents never let me do anything. i live with my dad and his gf, and shes a control freak. whatever she says my dad goes along with and if i dont listen to her then she starts taking away all my fave stuff. she even goes through my phone everyday and reads every single txt message...and if i delete them, she gets online and reads them! its like i cant even go to the bathroom by myself! but anyway, i cant go anywhere with my friends, i cant ever hang out with my bf unless their with me the whole time watching my every move, i cant even ride in the car with my cousin or go anywhere with anybody without me having to calling them like every half hour telling them what im doing, what time ill be home, and blah blah blahhh! i just cant take it anymore....i mean i know im not an adult but seriously! there wayyyy too overprotective and they need to lay off a lil and give me some privacy!
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What I would do is sit down with your parents and talk to them about how you feel. Be calm and mature when you tell them because if you act like a child, they will treat you like one. Tell them that you feel smothered and would like some freedom in your life. But let's be honest. Have you thought about why they are so strict on you? You could be acting like a child and not even know it. Reflect on your behavior first and then bring that up in the conversation as well. Show them that you are willing to do better and earn the freedom you so desire. Ask them why they are strict. They have their reasons and if you are polite and mature, they may share the reasons with you. Do NOT lose your cool at any point. That will just make things worse if you start yelling at them. Good luck.
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I can feel your pain though unfortunately there is not a lot you can do about it. When my son was your age I coined the phrase betweener. To old to be seen as a child and to young to be seen as an adult. Its probably one of the worst ages to be at.
Yes you need more freedom in order to grow and learn how to exist in the ever changing world as an adult. You also need your privacy; all young ladies' do. Your dads' girlfriend may be being as strict as she is because she remembers how wild she was at your age. Keep that to yourself please.
My advice: Sit down with dad and his girlfriend and calmly explain that you feel stifled by how tightly you are being restricted and your lack of privacy. Explain that you know right from wrong, that dad has raised you right and needs to trust that he did a good job. If you get good grades in school remind them of that. As for sexual activity if you are still a virgin you may want to point that out. If you are not; well you may want to figure out how to handle that question for I feel girlfriend may ask.
Explain to dad that you need to learn to grow. Part of learning is doing. This means you need his/their trust and that you be allowed to spread your wings a bit. To learn about being an adult. To have privacy so you can express you inner most thoughts to yourself and to your closest confidant. Expressing yourself to yourself and to your closest friend is part of being a girl and becoming a women. Without privacy it is hard to do this. Tell him if he ever questions anything all he needs do is ask, but to go through your email and texts is an invasion of your privacy and a show of distrust which you find both disturbing and unjustified.
Of course you need to find your own words for what I have written. Talking with your dad and his girlfriend together may work for dad is their to hear you and not getting things second hand. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by trying this.
Good luck. Hope I've helped some.
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