Question Posted Thursday December 22 2011, 11:37 pm
About two years ago, I started caring about this guy. Please note that I am only in 8th grade, but have always been more mature than other people. The guy that I liked, well I'd known him since I was younger, and I guess you could call him my first "love". We sat in the same bus seat, talked, and laughed, had the same class schedule, and were just relatively best friends. Texting was always a thing we communicated with, and I helped him through depression, and everything he went through a relationship where another girl went and "cheated" on him.
Then his friends started noticing it, and started pointing it out. And that's where it went downhill from there. Apparently the stress from his friends commenting, and bothering about it ended up making the whole thing a complete mess. He started sitting in other seats with other girls, never talking to me, and never even listening to me when I tried to talk to him.
And I don't know how to move on. I know I cared to much; but my dad never really showed me and my sister affection, so no hugs, bedtime stories, etc.. Just a figure. And we knew he cared about us, but he never showed it. And now don't know what to do because I got too attached to someone who did give me affection like that. We never dated, but it felt like that. And in the blink of an eye it's ripped away, and I have no idea what to do. No idea how to move on.
How to show him, and everyone else around me that I'm not an insecure 13 old girl who is currently taking college courses because everything else is too easy for me. I have no friends to talk too, nobody I can trust, because he was the only one I could actually talk too without complications.
So how do I move on? How do I get out of this crap-hole of a shell that keeps consuming me.
Thanks.
P.S - Please don't say that I'm too young to understand what caring about someone feels like. It's hard enough not being liked by anyone in your grade because even though your "pretty" (I mean this in the sense that I'm drop dead gorgous, but I'm not ugly either), 5'11 (uncoordinated)and a person who talks with bigger vocabulary than most college students talk with. I guess I'm just an oddball.
Well, the only advice i can give you is to talk to him. From what you wrote it seems like you have a strong bond between the two of you. It just needs to be rekindled so to speak. Talk to him. It may be that he wants to be a regular teenager sometimes while other times he like being with you.
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