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Crush-trouble, should I walk away from his life
Hey. I am a 19 year old girl. I like this guy (he is 21) but he has a girlfriend. We communicate mostly through text. He is a really good friend of mine. I met him last year. And since I started liking him, I started texting even more, in order to get his attention. To be really honest, I was hopeful. And we chatted through texts. He is open, easy going and honest. I told him that I like him through text. He said he can take me on a date. Now we kept texting. But he has a life of his own, and a busy one. I kept texting and it happened so that when he got drunk, we talked dirty. Then after some time I felt disgusted because it seemed like I am a concubine of some sort. So I started insisting on walking away and that also I told him and went mad on him, seriously overreacting. My mistake. Sigh. The hope still has’t gone away. I text and wait for his reply, sometimes. I really like him, and there are many reasons. But the truth is he doesn’t know me much, and we never got to spend too much time together since we live in different cities. And so he doesn’t like me that way. I am not able to gte over this crush, I have tried hard. I need some help. I don’t want to appear needy before him, which I never do when it’s somebody other than him. I want to attract him but not force him into it. He is in a long distance relationship and it seems to me that he loves her, genuinely. I want to get rid of my texting him and waiting for replies. What should I do? Should I still keep hope? Should I walk away? (whichI don't want to :( )
Looking forward for an advice that helps.
Thank you in advance.
- Spirit
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You need to walk away. I know it sucks, and you don't want to, but from past experience, you need too. Any guy who will flirt, talk to a girl the way he talks to you, and talks dirty to another chick who isn't his girlfriend, isn't worthy of love.
If he did those things to his girlfriend, than he will do those things with you. You need to put yourself in his girlfriends position. If you were dating him, and someo other girl was trying to break you guys up, how would you feel?
You can't help who you like, but sometimes its best to try to control it. You need to just forget about there ever being a chance betwen you two. I don't mean give up all hope. But just leave him alone. If you like him as much as you say you do, than you need to tell him,
"Look, I really really care about you. But you have a girlfriend. I don't want to come between you guys, so whenever you and her breakup, I'll be here waiting for you."
Now there could be a chance that after him and his girlfriend break up, he could come to you. But you don't want to 'that' girl. The rebound, the last resort, the 'other' girl.
You deserve a lot better. You deserve someone who can give you everything he has, and not just 15%. Leave him alone for the sake of yourself. From what you say about yourself, you can find someone else in NO time.
You got to think. He loves his girlfriend. He likes you. Love is so much stronger that liking someone.
On another note: Just because he doesn't have respect for his girlfriend because he is betraying her by talking to you; doesn't mean you shouldn't have respect for yourself, or her. She doesn't know whats going on. And if you have respect for yourself, you'd know that whats going on isn't right. You should've stopped it before it even started.
Good Luck
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First let me tell you something.I have the same experience.There was this girl whom I really liked and wanted to date her so badly.But then she had a boyfriend.So I was like trying to break them up.Posting some stupid comments on that girl's wall.But then I figured out that it'll never work out.I tried my best to make her mine.But I could never do that.Then eventually I had to accept the fact that YOU ALWAYS DONT GET EVERYTHING THAT YOU WANT IN LIFE.But there was this other girl who really liked me.So I gave her a shot.She is just amazing.We got along pretty well.And she really loves me.Now its been like 6 months for our relationship.And she made me forget all of my problems.So I got through everything.
I DID WALK AWAY FROM THAT 1ST GIRLS LIFE.BUT WALKING AWAY DOESNT MEAN THAT YOU ARE LOOSING.SOMETIMES YOU SHOULD LET GO THINGS,FOR SOMETHING BETTER TO COME UP.SO HAVE FAITH AND ITS BETTER IF YOU CAN WALK AWAY.
REMEMBER THERE ARE ALWAYS LOT OF PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO REALLY LOVES YOU.
SO GIVE IT A SHOT.ITS BETTER TO WALK AWAY AND EXPLORE SOMETHING NEW.
HOPE THIS WILL HELP.
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