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Emotions and me


Question Posted Thursday December 8 2011, 11:21 am

I have been a boy who was always loved by his family. I grew up with a desire that one day i will achieve the wildest of my dreams. I am heavily gifted with intuition. It has been my best buddy to tell me about the pros and cons.

I fell in deep love with a girl when i was 25, and it ended in a heartbreak for me. After that i forgot to be really happy or enjoy. My emotions are dead now, i dont feel anything for anyone, not even for my ownself.

I have had great success in my professional life and i have started to buy things which i dreamed of in my childhood. But these things don't even bring a smile on my face. I pretend to be happy and sad as well, but the truth is that i am so rigid now, that i don't feel a surge.

One girl loves me so much, but i dont feel any emotion for her. I tell her, that i love her, but it's false. I like her, but i am afraid i am unable to love anyone.

Society is nothing to me, i think that they are all there for their own benefits. I have some so called friends, but there is no one whom i can trust.

Sometimes i want to cry, but i am unable to do so. I am getting mad.

Denis


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AdviceMistress answered Friday December 9 2011, 11:24 am:
Dear Denis,

It sounds like you may have some type of dperession. Sometimes when we lose something that's so important to us we lose part of ourselves. That's what makes it hard to open up and care for anyone else. Boy if I could tell you the many times I've been hurt you'd be shocked. Of course after the fall I get back on my horse and I start back up again. Love is a great thing but it cuts you like a knife. After heartbreak you tend to see things differently and think differently. Things don't matter as much anymore. I've given my heart to any guy that pretty wanted it and in the end it felt like it got stomped on. I didn't believe I was worth anyone's time and I would close up. I sometimes still close up to this day. Each and everyday I try to be positive and as hard as it is it helps. I know that the hurt was there but its not going to take over my life because you only live once.
Maybe for right now the single life is the best thing for you and maybe its going to help you figure out what you need. You're young maybe travel or have new experiences or meet new people. the world is a mini mall of opportunities that is open to you. The sky is the limit.
As for the girl you're with now I think it's best to be honest with her if you don't feel that this is a relationship that could be considered serious. Or maybe you are serious but afraid of giving her your all because you're afraid she might hurt you. There is no way of running from hurt its going to happen. It's how you dust yourself off and try again. Good luck and think positive!

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