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Work guy..boyfriend..
19/f. my boyfriend is 20. we've been together for 2 yrs. I'm currently falling for another man who i work with. We've known each other for about 6 months... This man makes me feel better about myself than my boyfriend does... I am not and never will be a cheater but I do talk to the man from work on a regular basis. Lately my boyfriend and my relationship has been on the rocks and I'm getting extremely sick of him and I'm irritated with everything he does. I know he can see it. But I know he doesn't want to lose me. I'm not sure what to do about how i feel. Advice....please?
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You're 19. If it's not working and you want someone else, it's not working and you want someone else. Break up and go have dinner with the co-worker.
You're young, if you're smart there's a pretty low chance you'd be marrying either of these guys, so do the honorable thing and end the bad relationship before you hate each other and try something new that isn't a mess of bullshit you're sick of dealing with.
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You're in a pretty emotional spot right now. You want more from your boyfriend than he's giving you, and another guy is providing an outlet for you to vent that frustration and to be a shoulder to lean on. It's so easy to fall for someone when you're having relationship problems, but make sure that you are making a decision that you know is best for you.
If you don't think you and your boyfriend are going to work out, then absolutely reassess the relationship and if you should be with him. You're 19 and have your whole life ahead of you. If it's not meant to be with him, then it's okay, there are millions of other guys out there and so many opportunities for you to travel or do incredible things in your life. Your world only boils down to one person, and that is you. If you're not happy then maybe it is time to let him go.
And if he's seeing what the problem is and is doing nothing about it, then he's not a very good boyfriend. Sit down with him and talk. Let everything out. Say what the problem is, and if you want it to work then really give it a good try. If he won't do anything about it, or if he says he will and then a month later everything is the same then I think it's time for you to move on.
If you think that there is a chance for you and your boyfriend, or if you really do want to make it work, then give it everything you've got. Try your best to help make it work, and avoid talking to work guy. But, if you don't think it's going to work or you don't want it to, then maybe you should just let him go now. The relationship is only going to work out if you BOTH put in the effort. Yes he may need to change or whatever, but you need to change too and accept him when he tries and fails, because it's hard for someone to know exactly what to do all the time and to be perfect.
My last piece of advice is to not dump your boyfriend for his new guy. It takes time to get over someone that you've been with for so long, and rushing into another relationship or dating so soon can be damaging. If this new work guy is 'the one' or really cares about you he'll wait until you're ready to get into a relationship with you.
And if you don't want to cheat but you don't think you can control yourself around this work guy, then break up.
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