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so thanks for your advice i have a another problem so me n the boyfriend that i mentioned before he like gets jealous over everything like if he ask me a lot of questions i would yell at him n he automacially think that i have another boy over here while im yelling at him on the fone should i dump him because people always tell me dat the jealous men be the ones that is abusive but i dont know i really wanna get serious wit him but iits like something is holding me back because he lied to me before about having a kid when i asked him do he have any and when i found out he did i told him that if he wouldve told me ealier in the relationships that he had one it would be cool but he didnt sooo its like when he call me i want to get off the phone with him fast
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You know, I think your letting yourself know that its time for you to let him go. You don't even like to speak to him, so why be with him?
If the only reason why you don't like talkin to him is because he failed to mention about his kid, than thats normal. You just need time to let it all in, and I imagine your probably pretty upset.
Jealous is often caused by insecurties. If the jealous continues, and it progresses alot worse than there is a possible chance that he could become abusive. Has he ever been abused? Did he ever witness his dad/mom abusing each other? Most people who abuse others, whether is physically, mentally, or verbally, typically come from a home where its brought up at.
On the otherhand, my boyfriend gets jealous too, and so do I. It's normal to get jealous, here and there. But taking it to the extreme of accusing you of cheating; thats not fair to you. Here you are being faithful, and honest and he accusses you of doing something your not. You shouldn't have to prove yourself to the one you love.
You need to take time apart from him; talking included. You need to really think about what you want from him, and if he can give you the things you EXPECT from him. If you chose that you really want to be with him, than you need to talk to him about his jealous, and tell him it scares you. That your afraid that one day it'll go out of controll and he might do some harm to you.
Speaking of control, does he/ has he ever try to controll you? If so, this needs to be stopped too.
If he gets pissed about you bringing up his jealous/controlling- its time to let him go.
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