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torn
19f
the first day i met my boyfriend i was completely attracted to him and made it a goal of mine to be with him. he is soo cute. he played so hard to get but after six months he was mine. <3 now here i am a year after meeting him.. and i don't know what i want. he's a sweetheart..and he loves me and tells me all the time. he never does anything wrong..hes a great guy. i love hanging out with his group of friends and everything.. but lately i just wish we were friends. I just feel completely horrible for feeling this way. and confused as to why i feel this way, when before i wanted nothing more.. i'm honestly afraid to break up with him.. i thoroughly enjoy him as a person and i would love to spend time with him still. but as friends. i don't want unintentionally 'burn our bridge'. but i have a feeling it wont work out being just friends. cause it seems that never works. so i don't break up with him to avoid this outcome..
advice?
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Hey,
First, I am sorry this took a while to write, but in doing my best, please read on :)
I think you want to be friends because your relationship has just gone down a bit since the first time you got together; This happens to all relationships over time. You said yourself this guy is cute, a sweetheart, says he loved you, is a great guy and to top it all off: you get along great with his friends! So I think instead of asking yourself "is this guy right for me?" You should be saying "what can I do to make this relationship work?". It's like when a kid gets a new toy; the excitment wears off eventually. So to fix the problem, you have to create that spark of interest again. Start by choosing something you both enjoy doing, but haven't in a while and make a plan to do it oneday, just the two of you. It could be simple as going for a walk or playing mini golf together. Things like: dancing, clubs, karaoke nights, concerts, watching a scary movie, or doing something you can both relate to will bring you closer together. I have found that unless you are watching a movie in the privacy of one of your rooms, it can be hard to have a good conversation or those special "one on one" moments. So find something you both have to get involved in to do. Once you add interest to your dating style, the connection will soon be there again.
You shouldn't feel bad, you just need a refresher as most relationships do to keep yourself motivated that this is what you want. Please do not unintentionally 'burn the bridge' so to speak before you know what you are getting yourself into. Anything can work as long as you want it too <3
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