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chain of bad struggles: how do i help depression
I am going through a very difficult year, and basically just need help finding the old me and dealing with depression.
average girl: honors student, artistic and musical, all into sports, with the sweetest boyfriend and out nonstop with friends. senior in highschool and my cousin dies, i get skin cancer and a blood disorder, my boyfriend gets severe brain cancer, my family falls apart, i take in two kids, get into drugs, push all my friends far away and am kicked off sports for grades/medical, miss so much school and am diagnosed with depression(duh). unbelieveable amount of crap.
im really just in the pit and dont know how to get out. How do i get my positivity back, all that i lost including friends, and just fix becoming this hermit and the other flaws? My interests and life are gone how do i get it back?
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Wow, if anyone has a reason to be depressed you certainly have. This last year is full of stressors that bring on clinical depression. I'm assuming that is what you have been diagnosed with.
I too suffer from clinical depression, now in remission. I was involved in an auto accident, the only innocent in a 3 car pile up. One would think with everything including the police report proving I had nothing to do with the cause of the accident. The involved insurance companies would pay my medical bills and other claims as well as something for my pain and suffering. I was driving a company vehicle at the time so workers compensation was involved as well.
Long story short that is not what happened. Each of the lawyers involved tried to make it look like I either caused the accident or was lying about the extent of my injuries. It was five years of living hell and one day I found myself literally falling into a dark hole I couldn't stop falling into.
I've told you this not to commiserate with you. I did so that you understand that I have been where you are and you would believe me when I say to you there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You have taken the first step and been diagnosed.
The second step is to take the medication that has been prescribed. It may make you a little spacey at first but after a few weeks your body gets use to the medication. If your not on medication I would suggest you ask for some. The best doctor to ask for medication is a psychiatrist. No your not crazy. The two chemicals that cause clinical depression are secreted into the brain. Therefore a psychiatrist is the better doctor to prescribe medication.
The third step is finding a good clinical psychologist for talk therapy. When I say finding a good therapist what I mean is finding some one you are comfortable with. Someone that you can talk to like a best friend who will keep your secrets. You can talk to your therapist on any and all subjects, not just what you think is your current problem. Whatever you speak about stays confidential. No one not your parent, not your family doctor, not even you prescribing psychiatrist can be told what goes on in these sessions without your written release of information to that specific person.
I went through 3 therapist before I found my current therapist. I have been with her for 7 years now. At first we went through intensive therapy. Now we see each other once, sometimes twice a month just to check in. Checking in with her keeps me balanced and gives me the support I need to keep my depression in remission.
We are at the point now that we have somewhat of a mutual admiration for each other. She keeps telling me I am where I am at because of the hard work I've done. I keep telling her I am where I am because I was lucky enough to find her. Fact is I was lucky enough to find someone that I became comfortable enough with to her things I have never told my wife about myself. This is the type of therapist you need to try and find.
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I've never been through such difficult times, thank goodness, but I've had a fair share. My answer would be to take recovery slowly, a little bit at a time.
A phrase I heard once about saving the environment seems appropriate for most occasions: start where you are and do what you can. It'll possibly be one of those slow improvements that you can only measure by looking back over three or four months, even longer perhaps, to see any positive gain.
Perhaps you could keep a diary, logging your feelings and positive/negative aspects. This could remind you how bad things once were, but also any positive things that have happened to improve things.
I really hope this helps somewhat, although it's very poor in ideas. Let me know how you get on? Keep in touch if you think I can help at all, best wishes, C.
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