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Middle-aged bisexual
I am a middle-aged man,and have for some time wanted to start a gay relationship. I have tried online and just DON'T know what to say (except for the obvious- that I am a novice), or what to do to attract men. I understand all the "safe sex" stuff. I like women, but REALLY want a man. The question is pretty simple: How do I start? What to say? I'm not after boys- unless you consider 18 to be too young, but they just have SO much energy! Are there young men out there who want a middle-aged man?
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The problem you may have noticed is that the gay culture seems even more obsessed with youth than the general culture does. So for a middle aged guy just starting to really act on who he is, this can be pretty daunting. The only thing you can do is just keep putting yourself out there and hope for the best. Be honest and otherwise just act like how you did with women, only on the gay tip.
Also, do you just want hookups or do you want a relationship? If it's the latter, you might have a better time finding other men than the former. You might also hit the gym because a lot of gay men go to them and the more in shape you are the more likely you will attract someone (gay guys are men after all and are as visually focused as their hetero counterparts).
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Remember when you started dating as a young man/teenager. Remember how you made mistakes and screwed up and behaved a bit like an ass and sometimes got treated really badly...
It's just that. All over again.
It's a big wide world online. Try a few different sites and just be honest about who you are and what you want. A lot of people won’t be compatible with your desires, some people will be.
There is no real trick. There is just honesty and respect. Be upfront about what you are looking for, be respectful of other's feelings and interests too.
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