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Not allowed to have boyfriend yet
I really love this guy that I even got scolded by my mom because she knows he is my boyfriend. I am not allowed to have boyfriend yet but I think I am responsible enough to have one. I am hopefully graduating next year in college.. What can I do? My mom believes I have changed because of him and I truly believe that I became different because I want to experience things I haven't done before but I know my limitations. I really cant; understand my mom. Why can't she be like other moms who are like friends with their daughter. Im trying so hard that we will be close, I tell her secrets but it turns out that it got worst.
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Seeing as you've not given your age I'm gonna guess your 18. So okay, you are in the eyes of the law an adult-your at an age where you're responsible for your actions. Therefore, only you can control who you see. However, your mom can control who you see whilst in her house.
I'm not too sure about America, but certaintly in Britain the you can leave home when your 16 years old.
Put it this way:your mum wouldn't pick your friends for you, so why should she pick your bf?
Many people see the fact that their parents are overprotective as a bad thing. My mum and dad are very overprotective-they didn't even met my ex once, but they knew I was seeing someone.
It does seem like all mums are freinds with their daughters. But then they're missing out on having a proper mum-someone to admire, to look up to and someone who loves you no matter what. Being friends with your mum is worse, because if an argument occurs-well you wern't special enough to be seen as a daughter anyway.
You're in an ok position actually having a mother figure. Absence makes the hard fonder. I say (providing you are 18) move out for a little bit. Say for a couple of months. This will allow you to experience what its like to actually be in a normal adult relationship. Also, your mum may think differently and accept your boyfriend. As with my mum-its not you she doesn't trust its other people. But if you can survive on your own safely, then she'll hopefully trust others more and have a totally different attitude. Hope this helps :)
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Okay you stated you will be graduating college next year, Assuming you are at least 18 years of age your mother cannot tell you can and cannot date. If you live under her roof, You must obey her rules. However, Outside of her house you are free to do whatever you want as you are legally an adult and you have the right to make that sort of choice on your own. Your mother is looking out for your best interest, This world too many people are making poor choices and your mother scolding you is her way of trying to keep you in line. Again, You are an adult and you are free to make your own choices in life. Just respect your mothers house rules.
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