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Can he forgive me for lying?
I am 36 years old and recently divorced. George and I started hooking up about 5 months ago. About a month later he saw me kissing another man and asked me at that time and I lied about it. He didn't pursue it any further because we didn't have any commitment to each other. Now 4 months later (still no committment - but getting closer), he asked me about it again and I lied again, saying that we just hugged. He pushed further and I admitted everything. He is very angry that I lied especially about what I lied about. His ex-wife cheated on him. what I don't understand is that we didn't have a commitment to each other, in fact he said multiple times that he didn't want a girlfriend. He did tell me that he has feelings for me and he is very disappointed that this happened because of those feelings. Why is this issue so huge? We've talked about it and he invited me to his house. We sat and watched movies and he eventually invited me to snuggle with him and stay the night (no sex though). The next morning we talked some more and he just said that he needed some space and I told him that I would give it to him. That day, he came to my office and had small talk and he invited me out for a drink after work. When we left drinks, he wouldn't even look at me. Now a couple days later, he won't talk to me or return my text messages. Do I just need to be patient, or is he done with me? I wrote him a letter telling him all of my feelings and apologizing, but I don't know if he has read it. I can't stop thinking about him
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Why don't you think he wants to commit to anyone?
First off his wife cheated on him so that can make someone have trust issues. And second off you lied to him. He basically tested you on something and you didn't pass. He's most likely afraid of getting hurt again that's why he isn't ready to just jump right into a relationship for fear it might happen again. I'm not tryin gto be mean but it sounds like he is fed up and is done. Just give him space and if he wants to come back around then so be it. Right now it sounds like he's having trouble with trust issues in relationships.
Do you see yourself with this guy? Do you see a future? I would contact this guy one last time and tell him everything be honest. Tell him everything that happened and why you did it and why you thought it was okay because you weren't serious with one another. I hope it works out for you! Good luck!
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You don't need to be patient. You need to be annoyed by his rudeness and move on.
Yes, lying is not okay, and it's understandable it particularly worried him. However, he continued to give you mixed signals, and his current behavoir is deeply rude and unkind.
Radio silence after several months of dating is cowardly and simply not okay.
Is he done with you? Probably. But given how he has treated you recently, you can certainly be done with him now as well.
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