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Is this fair what can i do ? I loved her through a cancer scare and then she went with someone else
my ex left me for someone else
up in till a few weeks ago we thought she might have cancer thank god she don't she has something but nothing that bad
anyway i'm young just 22 we was having to talk about nasty things her asking me like will i still love her if she loses her hair and other things that
you shouldn't need to think about at are age she is 18
anyway i was needing to be strong and do all the hard things but there was someone else who could make her feel good cos of not needing to talk about this stuff
i think he might of been easy to talk to or something he keeped telling her he loves her and how happy they would be together and thinks like that when i was saying we need to stop drinking and eat better cos of her health(
both of us i wouldn't ask her to do anything like that if i wouldn't do it myself)
what chance did i stand haha
but the point is he is a snake
to go thru that for any one is hard it makes it impassable when theres a fun guy who's not needing to think about the hard parts and can just be fun
anyway she left me for him like a week after we found out she don't have cancer
i hate him i feel a bit like now should be the time her a i should be making happy good plans and getting on with are life but instead she is doing that with him
and i'm drained and on my own
i know beating him up might be wrong but its all i can think of he came into her life at a hard time and took her (he knew about me and didn't care)
i don't see why he can just have nothing for what he has done to me any advice ?
sorry about my poor spelling i think its all readable
thank you for taking the time to read this and reply
its approached its nice to know strangers are nice
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One thing to remember here:
You are angry at the wrong person.
You weren't in a relationship with this other guy... you were in a relationship with HER.
SHE is the one you should be angry at, and by projecting your anger onto him you are allowing your mind to still think of her as a nice person.
You shouldn't beat her up either, but you should place the blame where it belongs. If you don't, then you are going to waste away wondering how "he took her away" when in fact, she broke your heart to be with him.
Some people cheat, some people don't. Anyone who can be smooth talked out of a relationship, like you think she was, will only do that if they didn't want to be in the original relationship.
I wish this had never happened before, but people using you to get through a hard time in their life is more common that you would even believe. :-(
I know, from experience, that this hurts and I wish I could take that pain away from you.
Maybe my situation will help you feel better about one thing: If this had to happen, and since this is the kind of person she turned out to be, it was going to happen sooner or later...
... at least it happened now, and not, say, after you had been married 10 years and built a life together. That is what happened with me. I wish she would have wandered off to be with someone else a lot sooner than she did.
I know you don't want to hear this, but I have to say it again:
He didn't "take her away" she decided to be with him instead of you. It was her choice, and nothing you do to this guy would ever change that.
So stay out of jail, and find someone who isn't a cheater at heart. Someone who loves you as much as you love them. She is out there for you.
Take care.
P.S. You are welcome to contact me if you need to talk through this situation.
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Your girlfriend just left o be with hime because she probably felt overworked by the stress. You were once probably the guy that took away her stress but since you care about her so much that you started talking about things (like her possible cancer) that made her stressed.. In turn, she tried to find an outlet to relax and not think about her cancer (which is that guy). Sadly she should have taken a second thought into leaving you and realize that you loved her through that scare she she should not take you for granted because most likely that guy would not go through that stuff with her. I think you should not be violent, but just try to talk to your girl about it and see if that's why she left you.
there could be another possible thing. Maybe during her cancer scare she realized that life is short and she wants to be with someone that is more for her. maybe it's not really against you, maybe yall just weren't working out and she waited until she realized she had a chance to not be sick to be with someone else.. either way .. what she did was wrong and you need to talk to her about it but don't make her upset and don't pick a fight with the guy, even if he did know that you and her were together. Most guys don't do it to personally get at you, they just want the girl .
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