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Self-confadence {I DISLIKE OF WHAT I LOOK LIKE} (sorry if i spelt it wrong)
Well, Im 14 and im female but umm.....I dont like how i look i feel like i will never find anyone that will like me for who i am. Just seeing other people being happy is dispressing almost (im not in depression) when im with my friends it seems guys look at them instead of me. i feel like a loser cause of what i look like and guys are sooo judge menetall of what i look like. its sad.
Can I PLZ have some adive" :/
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Hey there,
Between the ages of 11-15/16, I was really self-concious. I felt fat and unattractive. My best friend is very petite and tiny, so I always felt HUGE next to her. She also got all the guy attention, so it made me feel really bad.
Once I got to high school and got a little older, things started getting better. For one, I wasn't always around my best friend. Guys flirted with me and gave me attention. I also thinned out as I got older, which gave me more confidence. Being in puberty is an awkward stage, but once you start becoming more womanly, your features will become more defined.
Confidence was also just learning to accept yourself. I still feel fat sometimes today, just because of how I felt when I was younger, but then I look at the facts. I'm 5'3 and 122lbs, which is healthy. I look great, and the only reason I feel huge next to my best friend is because she's shorter and about 100 lbs! So technically she's the weird one haha. You may just be unfairly comparing yourself to others. Get out of that mindset. Just look at yourself and the things you love about yourself! Your friends are probably more outgoing or flirty, which is why they get more guy attention. If you can work on your confidence, it shouldn't be an issue.
Fake it til you make it! It took me til I was 17 to have my first boyfriend because I wasn't comfortable enough with myself before that. Theres no rush, and it doesn't make you weird.
And if anyone is rude to you about your looks, it's because they are the insecure ones. They put others down to feel better about themselves. Don't listen to them.
My best advice is stay positive and do what makes you happy, the rest will come on it's own.
Good luck,
-Abby
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