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Help!! Im scared now!
Dear Zane you answered my question about showering with my dad and i need to know more. I didnt think it was wrong and im still a little confused on why exactly it is because my dad loves me. Why is it so wrong, Ive done it since i was 5 and dad says its fine that we do. IM really confused! But i have apologized to my friends since reading your advice. But I dont want my dad to go to jail or anything. I live with my mom part time and she doesnt know. Should i tell her? Also I thought i would talk with my dad about it and ask him and he didnt like me bringing it up and we got into a huge fight! he slapped me and told me not to talk about it again! He came into the shower again and apologized later. It was the first time in ten years since i have showered without my dad. Im scared now and dont understand. What should I do?
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Hun, You need to let your mother know what is going on, I know you firmly believe your father loves you but this is abuse not love. You are older now, A father and daughter can bond in many ways. They can fish together, They can play board games, They watch movies but taking a shower is inappropriate. I know you feel it is normal because you have been doing this since you were very little but it is not normal. Your father has been abusing you mentally, For you to believe that it is okay tells you that your father has manipulated you. You are your fathers daughter, As a role model your father should be showing you the way of life. Meaning, Telling you what is right from wrong and your father has failed to do that duty. This is considered incest, Insect is when you have a sexual relationship with a family member. It is illegal and against the law, You should report it to the police or your mother and let them handle it. I know that you are scared and you do not want your father to go to jail but you also must try and understand that your father has been wrong for many many years and needs to learn a lesson the hard way. I advise you too read up on sexual abuse and incestuous relationships to gain a better understanding of why it is wrong. Your father has crossed the line far too many times to be let off the hook lightly, You did not do anything wrong so don't be scared. Your father has done you wrong, He has abused you for years and now it is time to turn him in, As hard as it is sweetheart that is the right thing to do. Manipulating someone is not love, Your father has and continues to brainwash you into thinking what he is doing is right. Your father of course is going to deny what he is doing is wrong, Nobody likes to be caught red handed. Your father does not want to get into legal trouble. You have so far gotten about 5 people's opinion that is 5 adults telling you that it's not right.
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