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I didn't appreciate him, and now that it is over I want him back!
Im 22 and hes 29 we been together for 10 months and since a week we broke up, we both wanted it because we would fight and argue so much..for these reasons: i would always be with my friends , go out, enjoy life and he wanted me and him to be a team. He ddi everyhthing for me..i didnt do much I would tell him taht I love him but I didnt show it. a day after our break up i fell apart, i miss him so much I truly love him but he was my first relationship and i did so many mistakes. Now i talked to him and he says that he loves me but the last thing he wants is a relatinship because he gave me all his love and i didnt apreciate i at all. i cried told him pleas egive me a second chance he wont. but at the same time he wnats me in his life and doenst want to lose me as a friend. I know hes happy without me and i feel so bad. what should i do? :(
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You need to wait. What you really need to do is take some time away from one another and cool down. Figure out over the course of the next month what it is you want, if you truly want him back, and whether you should try pursuing even a friendship.
Right now he's confused and needs to go through this process first and get through disappointment, anger and hurt as do you.
He blames you for pretty much everything and says you don't appreciate him. Where's he getting this feeling from and how can you change that? Also, that's not 100% your fault as believe me he's made mistakes and it's a fatal flaw if he can't acknowledge it.
Wait and see what happens and go about your business and world as though he weren't in it for about a month or two and wait and see if he approaches you about that second chance because you acted maturely by backing off.
Finally, getting back together if it in fact happens won't work if you don't know what it really was that caused the issue in the first place and can both address that first. You have work to do together to make sure the same issues don't have a chance to develop further or you'll wind up here again and in more pain than before.
You have to figure out if he's worth it as right now he's hurt and has to be the one to come to you first. If he doesn't than it wasn't meant to be and you'll have to process the lessons it taught you for the future.
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