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I have difficulty to maintain friendship :(
i, I'm a 19 years old girl currently studying in university. I have no close friends since high school and now I'm finding it hard to find friends in uni. Im not shy to initiate conversation and tried lo lift up conversation. However, most of the time people don't seem to be interested. I used to have a friend who I met at uni orientation. We are not close but same classes made us see each other frequently. She is smart and serious type of girl, and I always be very careful not to say anything insulting. But since I start second semester, she avoids me. I can't ask her what happen because I'm too scared and I'm finding myself alone. I know something must be wrong in my personality because this problem always happen. During high school, in first year I hung a lot with many friends, but then the numbers progressively decrease since then and in my final year, I only have 1 close friends who I can share anything with. How should I change myself? Thanks for anyone who answers this question...I really need the advice
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Don't change yourself. It's not your personality. This friend is more of an acquaintance than a friend because you see her sporadically and have nothing established (yet) outside of those times when you bump into her.
It's not personal at all. She's not ignoring you and probably hasn't been around much due to her schedule of courses, studying, and trying to balance everything else in her path. She's likely not snubbing you and has no idea you feel that way.
Next time you see her start talking to her and find out if she would like to be friends and hangout sometime. That's how you move a friendship forward and I'm sure that will work. You won't find yourself alone but you will if you don't act on this lead. If she were outright avoiding you which I doubt that's her issue not yours. Move on if she's not receptive after you talk to her.
When it comes to university a lot of people are wrapped up in their courses, studying and themselves that finding time for friends isn't easy. They also tend to stick to people in their program or those who share the same interests. You have to approach people whom you feel fit yours and talk to them and see what happens. Also attend student association events and try to meet people there. I know you will eventually.
Guess what? Most of the U.S./ Canadian or what have you population only have 1-2 solid friends they can trust in any circumstance. If you have that already than cherish it and realize most people haven't that even. You'll be fine.
Continue being genuine and who you are and stay true to it and don't change. People can spot something being fake to fit in very easily. If you continue meeting people, talking to them etc. sooner or later you will hit it off with people. Also relax because people can sense tension, desperation or that you are uncomfortable. Just be you and everything (it takes time) will click into place soon.
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