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I thought I was doing well..
I play soccer and I made the school team.
Some background info you should know about me- I've been playing soccer for about 12 years, I play for an elite club team and not to be cocky, but I think I'm a great player. In the past few years for my old school, i've always been a "benchwarmer".. meaning I didn't get to play much in games. I am SO sick of being a benchwarmer. i really want to be on the starting lineup and right now i'm working my ass off to be on the starting lineup.
Well there's this other chick on the team who is from a different state. She plays the same position as me. I've competed against other girls before.. but this time its so weird. I feel like i'm working really hard to earn my spot, but the coach always picks the other girl over me. She gives her more recognition and acknowledges her more than me. She is an okay player, but I know that i'm better than her. Its not fair that i'm working really hard but the coach is acknowledging her more.
I'm really stuck on what to do. I know I shouldn't have a bad attitude, so i'm trying my best to stay positive and work harder. But it seems like no matter what I do or how hard I try, the coach will always pick her over me.
we have our first scrimmage in 2 days and if i'm not on the starting lineup then, then I'm going to talk to the coach and ask her whats going on. But what else do you suggest I do? thanks!
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Coaches will always put their best players in their starting line-up. That being said...you probably aren't doing your best while playing. If you know that you are better than your teammate, show initiative. Whenever your coach puts you in, show him all of the hard work you have done. When your coach comes to his senses and sees that you know what you are doing, he will put you in the starting line-up. Work hard and hang in there. Only time will tell. Best of luck. LOL I'm Mexican and play soccer so I'm pretty sure I know what I'm saying.
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Anyone making the starting lineup or having a key position on a team has to be a team player and good about being out front or hanging back.
Your coach probably (undoubtedly) knows your record and expects you to know how good you are and that you'll work hard without being told. He may be showing her extra attention and using her because she's new, good, and needs the kind of encouragement to be great that you may not need.
Your problem is you think you are too good and have this sense of entitlement to you where you expect the position to be handed to you on a platter. You have to play silently and continue to show you are good enough like everyone else.
I'm sure he will notice but people around you on the team are sensing that it's "all about you" and that you have an attitude of "better than us" etc. etc. and that attitude may be what keeps him from using you.
You should start changing how you feel about your abilities which may or may not be as good as you think and start playing soccer because you love it and anything else just happens. Forget starting lineup or the position you want and just play out of enjoyment. You'll end up farther doing that.
Try talking to him but he's bound to mention 90% of what I said. If after a few months you're still being benched (which won't happen) then you can move on. Show this other girl some love and support and be a friend. Don't begrudge her for being good as you wouldn't want people to be jealous of you in the same position.
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