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Hey again.
So I talked to my best friend to work things out (i hope you remember me? I asked about cutting her off or not) and well I made sure to let her know how uncomfortable it makes me feel that she keeps in contact with him still.
She of course says that she does not care for him and the only reason she still talks to him is to "hear what he has to say about the whole thing".
I tried my best to let her know this guy's game, because obviously to him this is just a game. I told her all the things he would say not only about her but how he felt towards me, just to show her that he's just a player. I thought she had seen it, but not she's still lying to me about hanging out with him and I honestly don't know what to do...I feel as if she doesn't care about our friendship and I'm trying my best not to lose her, but how can I trust a person that only feeds me lies? I honestly don't know what to do to make things better anymore. No we're fighting all the time, and I even called her a hypocrite because when this guy and I would talk (even after everything happened, before I took notice of his game) she would cry to me and tell me that she felt like I was choosing him over her and that as long as he was around our friendship wasn't going to get better, basically making me chose between him or her. I obviously decided to let him go...hence why he went after her. And there she is being a hypocrite and hanging out with him after everything she said. This I did tell her and she has nothing to say back. So you tell me, I am desperate for advice. What should I do?
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I guess if she's not willing to compromise or listen to her best friend, you just have to do what's best for you.
She can't let go of this guy, and if she can't do that for you then what's the point in putting all this effort into her? I know I said there's not a lot worth ruining a friendship over, but when you do everything you can to make it work and the other side isn't doing the same, it's just not fair.
I'm not saying ruin the friendship, just let her do her own thing and spend more time doing your own thing. This doesn't really mean cutting her out, but maybe just stop talking so much to her or being around her a lot. Focus more on your life, and just having fun. I think you said in the last one you were all you both kind of had, but you could use this time to make some friends. I think having different groups of friends is great, because you're socialising and it makes you a more confident person, but also because it's nice to be able to do different things with other people that you might not be able to do with your best friend.
I have a feeling it's probably going to pan out like this. She likes him, she'll want to be with him, you guys will stop talking, he'll use her and leave her, she'll be upset and come back to you.
I think for now tell her that you can't deal with the lack of trust, and just leave it at that. Spend a few weeks away from each other. And things change over time, so just see what happens.
If she does get hurt and comes back to you, you can choose your own way of accepting her back or not. I think that it would be nice though for you to understand that she liked this guy and just couldn't see that he was a player, even though it might be really obvious that he is.
You may not always be best friends, but remember that you can always just be friends. People that see each other occasionally and hang out here and there.
I can't really tell you what to do or not to do, at this point it's up to what you think is best for you.
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