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AM I a bad daughter? I stopped talking to my dad, and I feel bad about it.
AM I a bad daughter? I stopped talking to my dad, and I feel bad about it.
Hi I am posting this question because I am a 23 year old college student and I am a girl and I have asked this very question to my friends and family and to my boyfriend but they all love me so I wanted to ask it in a way from people who don't know me so that I can get a honest answer so here it goes. I have a Father who was taken out of my life when I was a baby because he was cheating and beating my mom and he was on drugs and had bipolar disorder so my mom took him out of my life and finally told me about my dad when I was nine and of a nine year old still wants to get to know her dad so I did and everything was wondefull untill I turned 11 and my dad started doing weed around me and molesting me and hitting me and calling me names and saying I was a loser and so on for years I put up with it and tryed to get my dad to change but he didn't and things got even worse so when I was 20 I stayed away from him and didn't call him again untill a few months ago and he is still the same person i cried and begged him to change and he laughed at me and said whatever and a bunch of other stuff happened so i stopped talking to him like my friends and family told me to and my boyfriend but I cant help but wonder if I am a bad daughter. Should I gave him a other chance?
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Hi sweetheart. I understand and am familiar with situations like your's. First youre safety is priority. I think it would be wonderful and one of the ultimate acts of love to give your dad another chance....with the exceptions that he initiates changes in his life. Can he change? Of course he can, Zane was wrong. People can change IF they make an effort. I don't know youryour relationship with God is..but now would be a good time to ask God to help..He can. He is always more than willing and ready..I really want this to work out for you and your dad..You know he is miserable and has a big void in him.,,,Hang in there from a distance and allow God to work on him He
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Sometimes despite people being family or not we have no choice but to put them behind us in order to move on and get over it. Your father has abused you mentally, physically and emotionally. There is no need at all to have him in your life, You cannot change people. In order for someone to change they have to be willing to change on their own and honestly your father isn't willing to change at least he hasn't been willing to change over a course of 20 years. This man beat your mother and did drugs before you were born and as you got older he was still the same old asshole he was before you were born.
Let me explain something...
You do NOT need someone like this in your life, I know it hurts to not have a father around. I do not have a father in my life either but sometimes things are for the best. I highly suggest you seek some consoling because of the abuse that you went through, If you need to help you can seek help but stay away from someone who is going to kill you emotionally. You have to believe in yourself and stop depending on someone who isn't at all worth your time and tears. If you can try and seek a protection order against him, If nobody knows about the alleged abuse I would report it, Your father really deserves to be nowhere but jail. Should you feel bad? No! You did nothing wrong. If he calls you, Hang up. If you can, Change your number. You should know now that your father isn't going to change and if he proceeds to harass you then you need to go to the police.
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