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Lack of Climax During Sex
I have been sexually active for about six years now. 2yrs into my sex life, I learned to climax with a vibrator. When I climax,I have to have my legs out straight and clench my whole body. I've never been with a man who has a penis to brag about, but last night, things got heated between me and a new guy and we ended up having sex. I have never seen a penis as large as his in my life, not even in porn. My Gspot was definitely stimulated, but I was not able to climax. Does anyone have advice on how to climax during sex? (I am a woman.) I feel like I now have 'the right tools' but I wasn't able to.
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DearAbby92 advice is good, there is nothing wrong with two people instructing each other in there likes and dislikes in any relationship be it sex or something else. This is how a relationship grows.
As to your problem with climaxing during sex. This is just a guess on my part; though based on your description of your masturbation climaxes, my guess is you are more clitoral than vaginal in your stimulation.
My suggestion is that you and your boyfriend find a position that allows either you or him to give more stimulation to your clitoris during sex.
One such position is a variation on the missionary position which is called, I'm sorry to say, the whores nightmare. Instead of you having your legs spread and your boyfriend penetrating you. Once your boyfriend has penetrated you, you have him place his legs out side yours allowing you to close your legs. This will allow you to clench your body as you do during masturbation.
Why is this position called the who's nightmare? This position puts more stimulation on your clitoris.
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I would say use your experience with the vibrator to help. Guide the guy to do what your vibrator does that gets you to climax. Have him touch the areas that really get you going, and tell him how hard/fast/gentle/slow you want it. It may be weird to 'instruct' the guy, but if you do it with a sexy voice and sound commanding, he will probably find it really hot. Or you can use your hands to guide his, or say something like "It feels so good when you touch me like this..."
Be creative, and don't be afraid to try new things either.
Good luck,
-Abby
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