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Not wanting the attention I tend to crave.
There is something in my mind that always wants me to want attention.
I used to cut myself, and in a way that was my way of craving attention from friends etc. I have stopped that now, but I'll say something that causes attention to myself and put something in a sentence that will obviously cause attention to myself.
How can I stop craving this type of attention? Basically I can say I don't think before I speak.
Can someone just help me because this time I can't answer a question on my own. :/
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You just have to learn how to control yourself. Control your mind and body.
You're not alone.. everyone wants attention in some type of way. I always want attention when I do something good, like get first place in a competition. Someone might want attention when something bad happens. Some people just want attention in general.
The key is.. think about other people before yourself. Yes, you do want attention. But there are other people out there who crave attention, just like you. Maybe you should give them a chance. I know this sounds cliche.. but be the better person. Instead of always saying "me me me. I want this and I want that", but yourself aside and think about other people. Give them the opportunity to shine.
Let me tell you a quick story. I was on my schools varsity volleyball team ever since sophomore year. I didn't get ANY playing time until senior year. Ever since I was a sophomore, my coach would always say to me "just sit on the bench and when its time, it'll be your turn to shine". And so for 2 years I patiently waited for my turn. The player who was playing in my position for 2 years got all the attention. But then came senior year, she had to graduate and then it was my turn to get the attention.
So my point is.. you've had some attention already.. maybe its time for you to "step down" and let someone else get the attention for a while. Just like that player did for me, senior year.
I know its tough.. but next time you want to brag about your new boyfriend/girlfriend, or show off something new you bought.. take a deep breathe and think "its someone else's turn now"
Learn to control yourself.
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I know how you feel. I used to feel this way as well. When I started making more popular friends, I wouldnt eat in front of them, and they got an impression that i was somehow anorexic. I really wasn't, but they thought it was kind of cool. Im now 18, and when i look back im ashamed of how I wanted the wrong kind of attention. Cutting yourself, starving yourself, and dressing innapropriately will make you feel like finally someone is looking at you, but this will only last for seconds. Remind yourself that cutting yourself is definitely not cool. You are hurting yourself, and it shows people that you have no confidence in yourself and this will cause them to look down on you. If you cant help wanting attention, get the right kind. Confident people who love themselves get a lot of attention. They are looked up to, and mny other girls want to be able to love their flaws like they do. For example, dressing nice can get people to notice you. I definitely do NOT mean dressing like some skank. I mean, not provocative, but cute. I just love cute clothes. Cool shoes, nice scarves, and well-painted nails will bring you tons of compliments and attention, which will feel good and actually last I do not mean expensive stuff, but just cute simple things you can mix and match. Caring about how you look is not a sin, but obsessing over it is. It's always good to look nice and polished, but its more important to love yourself on the inside. Every morning remind yourself that you are beautiful because you are a creation of God, and thank him because you have arms and legs, which some people don't. Imagine not having arms and legs? Walking around school like that? Doesn't that make you ever so thankful and help you feel beautiful? Im not saying that people who dont arent beautiful, cause the definitely are. But always be super nice to people and compliment them on everything. A smile will get you a long way. This way people will like you more, and this is the type of attention that is worth getting. Good luck.
-Millie :)
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