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drifting apart
both 17/f
My friend L and I have been (best) friends for 5 years. We hung out all the time, I even lived with her for a year. I got pregnant at 15 and we were still hanging out. Shes had the same boyfriend for 3 years, and now she is pregnant with his baby. Unlike me when i was pregnant, she doesnt want to do ANYTHING, even get off her couch!
The problem is that throughout our entire friendship, I was always the one to call her, make plans, listen to all her problems... I was and still am the only one making the effort. (Shes like this with everyone) and im fed up with it! She never listened to my problems or she just kind of brushed them off. Shes a bit selfish.
I took three weeks and didnt call her to see if she'd call me, .and of course she didnt. I called her finally and she was offended because she thought that since she was pregnant and couldnt party, I didnt want to hang out with her -_- i told her the phone works both ways and that i was sick of inviting myself over. I also told her if she wanted me to I would go watch a movie and have a relaxing friday with her. Of course she never called to make plans.
I know it looks bad because she's pregnant and 'im ditching' her, but I am just so fed up with putting 100% into the relationship and getting nothing back. Everytime i try to tell her, i just feel bad and end up not getting my point across. I went to her babyshower and it was almost like we were strangers. Now Im making great friends who actually seem like they want to hang out with me and it feels so good!
Am I in the wrong here? Im just so over it but I feel like I should be there for her like I always am. Could be just be growing up and drifting apart?
Thanks!
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I feel ya! There was a girl i was friends with from 3rd grade up till the end of freshman year. We stopped being friends because she was a bit of the jelous type and if i got something so did she. Including a boyfriend. We started dating boys on the same day, her and her bf broke up in like 2 weeks, and my bf and i are still together after 3 years. I am going to be a senior this year and we havnt talked since our last day of school freshman year.And ever since then i have made better friends who are not jelous of what i have. So if your friend wants to act like that and she is still wanting to be friends with you i would be friends, but not really close, because you are making new and better friends, and maybe she will see that and shape up. Hope i could help...friends are a bummer sometimes..
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