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taking risks; part two.
I'm just not sure. Yesterday at work I got off at 3:30; and Jesse came in at 3:35 and he was suppose to close; and I stayed with him the entire time and helped him out; ususally I hate working long hours; but last night I did it was ease. I feel a sense of guilt towards Riley. I mean, me and Riley have our good moments; more than our bad; and I truely love him. He's not allowed to get a job ti'll he is 18, and thats not his fault. Thats his mom because she lives off the government; and something about if he gets a job; she'll lose his check from his deceased dad; so he can't ti'll he's 18. I take Jesse home from work everytime we work together because he usually doesn't have a ride; Riley hates it. He gets mad. He knows about how Jesse feels for me, and he knows that I like him too; but I told him that I love him, but like Jesse. He told me to quit talking to him, but for some reason I can't.
I'm truely just scared. What if Jesse is just feeding me all the things I want to hear, just to get me where he wants me, and than change into he might really be? Than I'm really going to regret leaving Riley for him. Me and Riley spend everyday together; almost every minute unless I have to work; so he sees my parents ALOT. I feel bad because I don't want to change boyfriends on my parents because they get attached; my dad thinks I don't need a boyfriend; I need to focuse on school; but even with a boyfriend, I make good grades and I don't let them interfer with my work. I am already so comfortable with Riley. And he tells me I'm going to be the one to have his kids one day, and that I'm the one he wants to spend his entire life with. I'm torn in between the two, and I don't know what to do.
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youve got to remember how young you are.. i had a boyfriend for 1 year and a half who said that wed be together forever and get married and all of this stuff, but it didnt work out because he is a psycho. but thats another story.
anyways, what im trying to say is that people say things, but it doesnt have to make you stay. you shouldnt feel bad for your parents or riley or jesse.. you need to think about yourself and ONLY yourself right now. what is it that you TRULY want ? do you want to be with riley and have him possibly break up with you leave you .. because his true colors are slowly coming out, and being cofomfortable with him does not mean that you need to stay with him. hes not the only guy you will meet.. especially when you go to college, but hes also being controlling by getting mad at you with the whole jesse thing and telling you to stop talking to jesse.. these are warning signs, trust me.
changing, growing up, moving on is all scary, so its totally normal that youre scared. but i think you are giving so many reasons why you SHOULDNT be with jesse, and youre not letting yourself actually see the reasons why he could potentially be great for you. everything i say, you go back at it to make riley look better.. its like youre TRYING to make riley better than jesse in your own mind, but convinving yourself of this will only go so far..
its not bad to just take a break from riley.. try out someone new, like jesse. honestly ? every relationship is a risk. you never know whats gonna happen or who they might turn out to be, but youll never know if you just stay where youre comfortable and not as happy as you could be. because youre curious of jesse.. youre curious of something new.. and youll never know what its like if you dont step outside of your comfort zone and actually do what you want to do.
you said it yourself, you like jesse. and this isnt going to go away. its just going to keep getting stronger. and rileys going to keep getting more and more possesive and promising things that might not even happen.
youre second guessing everything right now, and you just need to take a breather.. and take a break from riley.
open up to new possibilities, and dont make excses for riley or jesse.. just go with the flow.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo :]
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Damn. This is a hard one and I see your dilemma.But from what I see is this. Riley as a temper problem and yells and Curses at you. But you love him dearly.
Jesse is a guy that you work with and is a total sweetheart. But you never know if he's just feeding you lines. But my question is, if you don't mind me asking that is, what are some basic things that are sweet that he says to you?
But other than that I'd say confront Riley about his anger problem and try to help him with it. That way you can stay together. But then you'll have to set the friend/co worker only boundaries to Jesse. You don't have to cut off all communication and not talk to the guy but still let him know where he stands with you.
But if the temper thing with Riley starts getting to be too much, I'm gonna say leave him but just stay as friends. Then give Jesse a try. And if you give Jesse a try, if he does turn out to be a jerk who's just feeding you lines, you'll always have Riley as a really close friend to help you out.
I really hope this helps.
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