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Moving out....as many suggestions please.
im 17/f. i live in south carolina. my mother little four year old sister and i moved out of my fathers house when he beat the crap out of me almost a year ago. well, my mom and i keep getting into fights.its bad, they mostly encircle around my little sister and how she needs more disciplining because my mom doesn't do it that well. now my mom is sending me back to my fathers so she doesnt have to deal with me talking back to her. what a mom right? my sister is bad and everyone sees it, but you cant tell my mom anything. yes, she is only 4, but she knows not to do alot of the things she shouldnt do when she does it anyways. but back to my point...i am a senior in highschool, i am getting a job. i need to find a place to live. i need to move out and move out soon. i dont want to ask a friend because it would end up being a burden on them in the end. i dont want to ask family because we dont get along in the first place. i dont know what to do. i know there really arent many options for me. i cant talk to my mom about any of this because we end up getting in more of a fight, ive already tried that. and it may seem to be an immature decision, but honestly i didnt decide this on a whim. ive thought long and hard about it, but i just dont know where to begin. i need help please.
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I really hate to say this but you don't have many options. When you say your father "he beat the crap out of me"; was this a one time thing or an abuse that happened often. The answer to this question is important as it effects your very limited options.
I am not a lawyer an as such I cannot give you legal advice. You should check with a lawyer on this question which you can do by contacting the legal aid society for free legal advise.
Until you are 18 you are the legal responsibility of your parents. To move out on your own, especially while still in school presents some very unique problems.
There is something called emancipated minor. This requires an order of the courts, which will require a lawyer to go to court with you to request this order and is issued only for certain unique reasons. What this means is that the court is saying regardless of the fact that you have not reached the age of majority the court is giving you that status and all the rights of an adult.
How your school will view this I just don't know. As a minor they have to provide free schooling. As an adult they do not have to provide a free education.
Your other alternative is to go to your county social service office for children's services and ask them for help. You will have to tell them of the abuse to you by your father. Since this is still a chargeable offense they could charge him with child abuse, just so you know.
You would have to tell them that even though your father abused you your mother is sending you to live with him. Child services would then get involved not only on your behalf but also on behalf of your sister. It is possible that child services would put both you and your sister in foster care.
As I said you don't have a lot of options here. You cannot legally sign a renters contract so finding a place to live will be problematic. Even if you do you will probably need some type of public assistance as you could not possibly make enough money to live on. This would trigger a social service intervention on its own.
My advise is to talk to your school principal. Even if school has been dismissed for the summer the principal will still be there. Talk with him/her. They are trained to handle situations like yours and know what to do to help you.
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