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ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years now.....
my boyfriend and i have been together 4 years and i sometimes feel like i dont please him as much as i used to i am not the best looking girl but i want to try new things to please him please help.
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Actually, in marriage, it is usually the fourth year that is the hump year. By that, I mean that is the period where the people in the relationship decide that their heart isn't in it anymore and they want to be with other people (and so this often initially expresses itself in an affair) or they get past it and find a way to keep things going. "The seven year itch" is actually more like "the fourth year freakout."
I think the thing you have to look at is whether you are getting some reciprocation. You feel emotionally invested in the relationship and don't want to lose it because of all the time and emotional energy you put into it plus your natural competitiveness with other women makes the thought of losing him to someone else most mortifying. This often results in a one sided scheme in which only one partner is putting their all into the relationship and eventually begins feeling resentful for not receiving an adequate level of appreciation for the effort.
Or you are confusing his comfort with you as a lack of interest. When you are several years into a relationship, you can't keep up the energy of dating everyday. That fire eventually dies down because one can only do so much. The simple thing you can do is just love him as best you can and leave the ball in his court and take it day by day. Don't feel that you have to be superwoman or like a porn starlet or whatever. Just be yourself and if it breaks up, well, splits happen everyday thousands of times across the country even with the best of intentions.
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Four years is a long time., And things may have seemed alot better at the beginiing,. because everything is new,. if you want to please him with different things,. try getting him to look at websites and send you some he would be willing to try,. and visa versa,.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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