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Staying positive in a negative situation?
Hello,
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My issue is that this guy and I have fallen for one another, we started off as friends and have slowly grown to develop deeper feelings. We spend all our time together. However we both live in England and he has a gf out in the States (USA) and he has just gone to visit her for a few weeks, I think they are both in agreement that they should part for the time being as the long distance thing is not working. I know he cares for me but he really cares for her too, and I'm not the kind of girl to break up a meaningful relationship, and its a very difficult thing to see someone that means so much to me leave to be with her for a while, and I know that a lot of people in this situation would either get bitter, jealous, resentful, maybe even email the guy constantly while he was away. I really hate all of those things and I want to stay positive in this negative time when my emotions are all over the place. Any quotes, stories or any words of wisdom to get me through these next few weeks would be must appreaciated. In the end I want what is best for him but its very difficult to be so cool and collected about the whole situation. Many Thanks, a. :)
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
The main thing you have to do is sit down with him and ask definite questions such as:
1. Can you commit to me 100% emotionally?
2. Will your pangs of regret over the breakup with the American girl get in the way of us as a couple in any way?
3. Do you intend to go back to her at anytime in the future?
4. Where do you want to take our relationship?
And don't settle for evasions, half truths or cliches. If he can't give you firm, declarative answers to one or more of those questions then trouble is ahead.
You also have to realize that if he finds you attractive, other guys are going to as well. So it's not like you are going to be forced to put all your eggs in one basket. Therefore no need to feel that this guy is your only hope.
Just remember what you want out of life and ensure that this guy will help you attain it. If you don't think he can you need to go elsewhere.
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