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Why is he doing this to me?
So I just got out of a three year relationship with a guy I thought I loved. The break up ended with a huge heart break and me in the hospital for personal reasons... Well I was in the hospital the guy came to our house and moved all of his things out. One week later he moved in with his ex girlfriend. He broke up with her two weeks later then called me to talk. He came over and refused to talk about our relationship, he only wanted to talk about the other girl. After I caved in and gave him my advice he left he did this for about four mounts with plenty of new girls. Why does he feel the need to keep on hurting me? Am I wrong for caring about his feelings and giving him advice? I just don't know what to do with him anymore. BUMMED!
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Dear "Why is he doing this to me?",
Putting this in simple terms. "A stray dog will always find his way back home". Why? Because they know where they get fed. This man is as low of a dog as you can find and every single time he comes back to your place, you feed him the attention that he craves!
I would like to think that he isn't doing this to hurt you, he confides in you because you allow him to. He doesn't see this as harming you, trust me. We as human beings think that once a guy/girl leaves us or vice versus, that we need to expel all communication from that person. Well there are some of us, (in particular, your ex), who don't think that way at all.
Your not in the wrong for giving him advice or for caring for him. But this obviously is not healthy for you. In this particular situation you need to cut him off. If you can't handle him being in your life in the way that he has chosen to be, then it's time to move on. I can guess that in the back of your mind; you caring for him and being there for him will make things right and maybe even resurrect the relationship, but you don't need this.
It's time you take time away from him to gather your strength so you can stop cradling him. Go out with your friends, go see a movie, take a personal day. Whatever you do, make sure it doesn't involve him. I know it's going to be tough, but it's something that has to be done for your sake!
wishing you all the best,
Braylen
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