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boyfriend (again)
Hey, you answered my question about my boyfriend moving away and I don't mean to bug you but I have a few more questions! haha
Did you ever consider dating other people while you two were apart? The situation with me is, this guy is my first boyfriend. I care about him so much, but I'm young and curious and I can't help but want to meet other guys and try new things. I'm afraid I'll either let him go and be sorry I did, or stay with him and miss out.
And how do you keep things going when you can't see each other? I'm afraid were going to lose what we have when we can only make phone calls.
And I'm also afraid that I've become too attatched and once he leaves I won't know what to do with myself. I don't want to be home by myself and moping the whole time. I just don't know what to do.
I really appreciate you reading this, and all your help.
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Hey so this summer will probably be the hardest part. I'm going through that right now. Its the first summer I haven't spent with him and its just weird not having him around when I'm at home. But once you get to college it will get better. You will be constantly surrounded by people and be very busy and distracted... in a good way. I was in the same boat as you, he was and is my first real boyfriend, I never expected our relationship to get so serious and I always assumed that I'd date a bunch of guys in college. I did think about the possibility of dating other people. There were times at parties were I really did want to cross that line....but I am soooo happy I never did. My freshman year was a true learning experience for me in terms of my relationship. I went into my freshman year unsure of how strong my relationship was. I thought about the possibility of dating other people... but whenever I'd see my boyfriend during a visit I was always reminded that he understood me like no one else and how much I really loved him. People say if you have only been with one guy your whole life you need to date other people to see if he is right for you. I don't think you need to go as far as dating someone else, but you should definitely meet some new people as see. As for my boyfriend my situation was a bit different, he was going through the whole boot camp process so he was pretty much isolated from girls...
To keep things going we tried to skype at night before we went to bed (when possible I could only write letters to him for 3 months in boot camp) Also sending letters and small packages was a nice reminder that you love each other. We also tried to see each other at least once a month. Idk how far away your schools are but mine was 7 hours from my bf. We made that happen every month (expect for boot camp) I really think that is essential. And its not as hard as you might think. I didn't have my car at school and my bf didnt even have a licensee and we figured out ways to see each other.
Again, every relationship is different. This is what worked for me. My one friend didn't see her bf nearly as much as once a month but they are still together now, so it all depends on the people. The most important part is that BOTH of you are on board 100% for this. The hardest part is trust. This summer will probably be the hardest part, but it will get better so don't loose hope! I wish you both the best! If you have anymore questions or want to vent about anything feel free to message me again <3
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