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i'm in love with a girl
18/f i've never been gay before, and maybe i'm still not. but i love this girl at my school and its causing depression and anxiety.
first off, school ended for me about two weeks ago. i graduated. she's still a junior. we talked at school all the time and everything was really cool, she even started liking me back. but now schools ended. i haven't seen her in what feels like an eternity and every day, its getting harder to move forward. i try to talk to her sometimes, but texting isn't the same. i wanna SEE her. and everytime i try to hang out, she's busy. i think she may be avoiding me. she knows i'm into her, but she definitely doesn't know the extent of my feelings. another problem is that she's in love with this other guy. they used to go out but now they are just a casual item...i don't really know. but she's not dumping him anytime soon. meanwhile, i can't eat or sleep. when i do eat, its by force. when i do sleep, its by the help of marijuana. i don't know what to do. i want to talk to her but i don't want to annoy her. i feel like this is more than love. like infatuation or something and its really scaring me and literally killing me. WHAT THE HELL CAN I DO???
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We always want what we can't have. The more this girl plays hard to get, the harder it is for you. Try your best to keep cool for a while and don't seem to desperate to be with her. I think a small group date with her is best for now. See if you can get a couple other friends to go out to lunch, coffee or the mall and invite her along. She may not feel so intimidated if there's other people around. Try just being her friend for a while before you reveal your feelings for her. When you do finally get the courage up to tell her how you feel, be ready for her to possibly turn you down. You'll have to let her know that you still would love to be friends with her and you respect her feelings. I had a girl that I had a huge crush on and I was sure she felt the same way. We hung out a lot and after going to the movies one night, I went in for a kiss in the car and she politely let me know that she didn't feel that way toward me. I was really embarrassed and didn't know what to do. We did end up staying friends but I always hoped she would change her mind someday. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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