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So I if you haven't read any of my other questions about this guy, I will fill you in. I've been talking to this guy. He's funny and extremely sweet. He is about three years older than me, and I am sixteen, but he has this level of sillyness and quirky disposition that I possess as well. Since he has a fun, playful, childish attitude like me, I feel like we connect. He is very protective of me and I find it cute. He told me he likes me a lot and I do too!
but every time he is annoyed or pissed about something, he closes me out. I know I should give him space when cheering him up is out of my control, but I feel like crying when he shuts me out. For instance, he was supposed to go to Arizona today but his flight got cancelled. I try to cheer him up and look at the bright side but he gets all negative and bitchy and I don't like him taking out his problems on me. HOWEVER, he DID admit he is being mean when I told him I'll let him be. He said he was sorry he was acting like such a crabass, and I felt relief to know he's mature to admit his wrongdoings. Still, I am cautious. I feel like if we ever were more than what we are now, his tendency to become pissed easily and take it out on me will effect us in the future. Advice?
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Hey... I know how this goes. I know you two aren't dating, from what you've said. Just talking, not exclusive yet. But, guys will be like that. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now, and I've learned that some people just handle stress and disappointment a different way.
When my boyfriend and I fight, or he's upset about something, the BEST thing to do is let him have his space, him "shutting you out" is his way of dealing with his space. It's hard to say about how things would be in the future, I mean clearly he will still probably be like this, if this is the way he deals with his problems.
It's not that he's taking his problems out on you, most guys ask for space so they don't get mean and rude, and say things they dont mean. I feel girls get what they deserve when they keep pushing and prying a guy for information on whats wrong. The guy gets mad and says things he doesn't want to. The best way to avoid that is to let him be until he's cooled off enough to talk to you.
It's good he admits he treats you bad when he's upset, but also I think that would be avoided if you gave him his space during that time too right?
I'm a junior in college and my boyfriend just graduated college. It's a live and learn process.
You're still really young and it's just all about learning.
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