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Hey I asked you a question on may 17th about me and my boy of almost 2 years broke up and he used to do pills. Well its now been a week and a half and ive never felt this heartbroken. Hes been going out a lot and we have the same friends so I havent been trying to hang with tjem cause honestly it must depresses me more. But what bugs me so much is that he seems completly over it :/ like I can barely function and hes out and forgot about me. This boy used to tell me when hed break up with me and when we were together how much he wished we met later in life and he prayed wed get married someday. Im not tje kinda girl who fishes for this stuff so I know he wasnt just saying it. But how can he be so fine, like I feel like crap about myself and like im the biggest loser ever. Do you think he will come back in a couple months? Hes also moving to pennsylvania togo to school and I live in florida but we had a long distance relationship for a year now so I dont think itd matter. Please help :( im so depressed and I feel so lonely :(
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I know how horrible it is to love someone and them move on so easily. Recently, I lost one of my best friends that I'd been friends with for such a long time, and it was like being in a break up. I was so upset and depressed, and she didn't care one bit.
I knowwwwwwww how horrible this is, I really, really do. But, I promise you that it will go away. It might take some time, but really it will go away and you'll wonder why you even wasted your time on him.
I think the fact that he's fine and moving on easily is telling you that you did the right thing. It feels so horrible that you invested so much time, energy, trust and love into a person to have them throw it back at you like that, but there is always a little bit of silver lining in that big dark cloud. If he's able to move on so easily, then you deserve someone so much better than that. And now, he's gone. You're not going to waste another 2 years on someone that doesn't appreciate you the way you should be appreciated. It'll hurt for a while, and it might even make you a bit distant when it comes to your next relationships, but you'll learn what you expect in a relationship to avoid people that hurt you like this.
The first couple of weeks are the absolute hardest. You want to talk more than anything, you want him to feel bad, you want him to come crawling back to you begging for your forgiveness, but if you can get through the first two weeks, then you can get through a month. And if you can get through a month, you can get through 6 months. And if you can get through 6 months, you can live your life without him. You've already made it a week and a half, so I know that you can live a happy life without him.
It is so hard and horrible right now, and it will be for a while, but I promise you with every part of me that it WILL go away. As long as you stay away from him and don't let him back into your life, it will go away. If you let him back, even a little, it's not going to disappear.
Maybe he really did want all that, maybe he does, but he doesn't deserve you. He hasn't made the effort, and he's had soo many chances! Please don't go back to him, I know it's hard, but he's not going to change sweetie. Let him go. Deal with the pain, even as horrible as it is, so that you can move on and be with someone better for you in the future.
If you want to hang out with mutual friends, then you do it. Ask them to not tell you about him, even if you want them to. It's just going to make it harder for you.
You're nothing close to a loser, you are so strong and wonderful.
It's meant to be depressing and lonely, that's how it's meant to feel, but it will go away in time. Don't cut your friends out because they know him. You should always take out a little time for those people that have always been good friends to you. And if you don't, then maybe turn to your personal friends or even family (like siblings or your mum) and spend some time with them.
I think he probably will come back at some point. But don't give in. He's coming back because he knows you'll take him back. I know it's hard, but give him up. Let him go and move on with your life.
Don't ever forget how amazing you are, and that you deserve so much more than him.
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