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Hey again,
I want to be frienda with him if that's all I can get. And ever since the day he got fired and left without a goodbye all I did was write a goodbye/thank you card to him and the bus company said they would try to get it to him with his last paycheck. I don't know if he got it though, I left a contact email and numbr and told him to let me knw if he gets the card but haven't heard from him. Should I try to contact him one last time in hope of a friendship? Or should I tell him how I honestly feel and if he thinks a friendship won't work have no contact? I have nevr told him how I felt but I have asked him to hang out. This is what happend...
Hey how was your day today
He anawrs
Basically causual talk it got quiet for a second and so I was like hey ... I was wondering if you would evr wanna hangout outside of this bus? And he was like wait what? And I repeated it and then thr was a 10 second silence akward as hell and thn he was like what do you mean hangout and he askd me that like I was asking him to have sex. And I was so nervous and I was like idk hangout I must have sounded so dumb. And he was like I'd like tò hangout but I'm always so busy especially with christmas coming around and my ebay buisness. All I said was oh ok and thn he kept talking to me and I was embarsd so for a week I completlly ignord him and he would do try to get me to talk to him I evntually did. Could it be he said no cause he didn't knw my age at the time I think he was actually busy. Or would he get in trouble if he hungout with me? Its not like I'm undrage? And he would always ask me wht I was doing ovr my weekends I felt like he wantd tò knw if I was free or not. So if we get in contact do I not tell him how I feel, I feel like that's what bothrs me the most I nevr got to tell him wht I feel for him. I use to workout alll the time but bot since he's been gne the whole time I thought I was working out for myself but I was doing it for him I gained weight now and can't seem to be moticated anymore! Everything reminds me of him.
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Hi,
About the card: maybe he didn't get it so he didn't reply or maybe he did get it and wasn't sure what to say/didn't have time to reply. I think you should call him one last time, see if he got the card, if so/not ask him if you could talk to him every now and then (instead of saying 'be friends'). If he says yes, great and if he says no, I think it would be better to have no contact.
In your conversation, it sounded as if he knew you liked him from the moment you said "Would you ever want to hangout outside of the bus?". That was a major hint. I think he just took this as a little shock which is why he replied the way he did; the normal way. I know exactly what you mean about the 'awkward' silence there.. he must have thought in those terms (sexually), but when you said 'I don't know, hangout' it saved you and he saw that you just wanted someone to chill with.
The 'ignoring him for a week' likely made things a little more awkward though (for him). For, instead of bringing him in, that was telling him to move away a bit (it made sense to you though since you felt awkward to begin with, where he didn't). Also, I think he tried to get you to talk to him 'cause he could see that you cared, but weren't sure how to handle the situation (he wanted to help).
He must of said no to hanging out atm, for he was busy and... he has a fiance! I don't think age is a problem to him; he may get in trouble from his fiance, but that's about it. When he asked if you were free on weekends, he must of been trying to figure out a time in his schedule when he could hang out with you casually without any "looks" from other people. I think you should tell him how you feel when you are in a comfortable spot; it would be easier and you'll be glad to get it off your chest.
As for your working out, you could see if he would support you in your activities (as a friend). He could still be your motivation as in 'if you work out he may notice you more', but ultimately, motivation is something only the individual can make for themselves. "You are motivated by whatever you choose to be motivated by". So, choose something else to focus on; aNyThInG. When I work out, I listen to music. It takes my focus off of everything else; you just listen, exercise, and sing. Anything can motivate you as long as you want it to and the more you find things to distract you, the easier motivation will become. You can be an individual and accomplish your own goals; trust in yourself! :)
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