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How to approach your boyfriend if your shy
Im a shy girl and so is my boyfriend. We hug at school and we text eachother 24/7 and we talk on the phone. But when we are with eachother we are both too shy to start a conversation. It really bothers me but im just so shy because i really like him and i dont want to say the stupidest thing. We both want to kiss but we dont know when to, and we only can at school. Im 13 as well. Help asap?
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umm why are you guys boyfriend and girlfriend if you're too shy to even talk and communicate??? You really should reconsider being in a relationship.. you're only 13. I didn't have my first boyfriend and even first kiss until I was 15. Wait until you're older and more mature to actually talk to the guy. To me, it sounds like you're not ready for a relationship. If you can barely communicate with him because you're "too scared to say the wrong thing" then you're definitely not ready for a relationship. Try getting out of your bubble more and start off slow. Start by talking to your guy friends. Then talk to strangers that are guys. Say Hi. whats you're name. Cool shoes. etc. Then start hanging out with guys and get comfortable with them. Learn the things they love to do- like video games or having a bonfire. Once you become comfortable around the opposite sex, then you know you're ready to be in a relationship. Don't rush it. So many people think you're supposed to be dating and have your first kiss by you're like 10... um thats not true. its different for everyone. Date whenever you're comfortable. Don't rush into it and don't feel pressured to do anything you're not ready for yet..
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This is really, really normal. And it gets this way because both parties have put each other on a pedestal and are afraid of being themselves.
Look, you have to be you in a relationship. If you try to be someone else you are going to end up as one neurotic puppy. Just start talking about what you want to talk about. The thing is that he may be better reacting to what you say anyway. Guys are not raised to be big talkers but more doers.
As for the kissing thing, lay your head in his lap and look up at him. He will at least look in your eyes. Grab the back of his neck and pull his head gently toward your face. I think he will figure out what to do from there. You don't have to necessarily be in a private situation to do that. You can do it at a park, even, as long as you don't overdo it and make other people uncomfortable.
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