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Not sure how to approach the matter.
So, I've been single for about four almost five months, I got dumped on Christmas by my boyfriend of a year, he took me out to California and broke it off. After that it was hard to see him around since we have all the same friends. Well I am over it, but now I have reserves and kind of built walls around myself. After we broke up my best friend B who is a guy who is dating my other best friend V, introduced me to his good friend O, well me and this guy hated each other's guts but always had to be around one another due to the fact we were friends with the same people.
He'd insult me and really hurt my feelings, but recently I have started to like him, not a lot but a little bit. The other night B was explaining how he really wished the two of us could get a long, and when B was taking me home he told me that O really like me and was just being rude so he didn't like me more. Well I got his number and we have been talking. He doesn't know I like him but I know he likes me. I plan on going with him and my other friends to play billiards tomorrow night. I just am very apprehensive on everything, I feel like I am not ready for another relationship, but I want to have fun, is it wrong to play hard to get? I want to date him but not seriously. What is a good way to play hard to get without losing him and getting him to like me more without him finding out I like him. I also would like to know what it is guy like to see girls wear. We're both kind of punk kids I guess, we go to shows sometimes and I have cherry red hair, what do those kind of guys like to see girls wear and see their hair like?
Advice and suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks (:
17, female
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Okay, after reading that, I have a big feeling that you are not ready to be in the dating realm at all.
Especially from this line: "What is a good way to play hard to get without losing him and getting him to like me more without him finding out I like him"
You say that you want to have fun, but then you're afraid of losing him. You want him to like you, but you don't want him to know that you like him. Maybe I'm wrong, but it sounds like you do really want to be dating and having that want to be in a relationship again, but you are really just not ready at all to take that step. And that's okay. Sometimes it just takes a lot longer to feel comfortable dating again.
It can be really damaging if you try to convince yourself that you're ready when you're not. And do you think it's really a good idea to start considering a relationship, or even just dating with someone that used to insult and hurt you? 8 year olds are mean to girls they like. Teenage guys that are genuinely mean to girls are just jerks.
And you have to remember that if you're just having fun, so can he. What would you do if you found out he was just leading you on and didn't want to be in a relationship? Or maybe if he was flirting with other girls?
And why does it matter what guys like to see girls wear? You should wear whatever you like, and any guy you date should be happy with the way you look in whatever closes and hair colour you choose.
You'll KNOW when you're ready to start dating again. If you still have that feeling that you're not, then don't.
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