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i want my ex back..
we are in highschool. so my boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. and it was hard on me. it was kind of out of the blue. we did evverything but sex and when i asked him why he broke up with me. he said that he still wants to be friends but he has a lot going on right now with getting a job and his friends.. so i said "you can tell me the truth and you really think being friends will work? you don't have to say that if you don't mean it." and he said "yes that's it and that he still likes me just needs time and if things don't work out with us in the future he does want to be friends".. so it's been a month and he has made no effort to even talk to me let alone be my friend. the thing is his girl friend before me and him are like best friends since they broke up and i wonder why can't we still be friends? i honestly really want him back. and like a few days after we broke up we were going to be at the same party together and he texted me and basically made a point that he wanted to hook up and i said " i don't know. we'll see what happens." because i didn't want to give him that satisfaction even though i would have hooked up with him and he said something along the lines of "what do you want to sleep with ed? (his best guy friend and also my friend) and i denied it because me and ed are really just friends. in the end he didn't go to the party because he made plans prior to it he forgot about.. and right now, all i want is him back.. but i don't know how.. i've been hurting a lot because he lied to me about being friends still when he promised. i would take him back in a second but i just hate him at the same time right now for putting me through this. what should i do? i really don't want to move on.. i don't see myself with any other guy and i don't want to be with any other guy.we are in highschool. so my boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. and it was hard on me. it was kind of out of the blue. we did evverything but sex and when i asked him why he broke up with me. he said that he still wants to be friends but he has a lot going on right now with getting a job and his friends.. so i said "you can tell me the truth and you really think being friends will work? you don't have to say that if you don't mean it." and he said "yes that's it and that he still likes me just needs time and if things don't work out with us in the future he does want to be friends".. so it's been a month and he has made no effort to even talk to me let alone be my friend. the thing is his girl friend before me and him are like best friends since they broke up and i wonder why can't we still be friends? i honestly really want him back. and like a few days after we broke up we were going to be at the same party together and he texted me and basically made a point that he wanted to hook up and i said " i don't know. we'll see what happens." because i didn't want to give him that satisfaction even though i would have hooked up with him and he said something along the lines of "what do you want to sleep with ed? (his best guy friend and also my friend) and i denied it because me and ed are really just friends. in the end he didn't go to the party because he made plans prior to it he forgot about.. and right now, all i want is him back.. but i don't know how.. i've been hurting a lot because he lied to me about being friends still when he promised. i would take him back in a second but i just hate him at the same time right now for putting me through this. what should i do? i really don't want to move on.. i don't see myself with any other guy and i don't want to be with any other guy.
ed has told me before how tyler was upset about the breakup too and that he feels like an ass hole for doing that.. ed has also said what a good couple we were when we were together. it's hard to hear.
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Actually, I once broke up with a girl because I just had too much crap going on in my life at the time and felt a need to get back to square one. Best thing I ever did, btw. I moved on to bigger and better things and don't regret it at all.
Sometimes a man just needs to clear the table. It isn't necessarily indicative of a fault on the part of his girlfriend, so don't take it personally.
I would also suggest that you are only in high school. Your perspective on relationships and life are going to evolve a lot in the coming years, so it was pretty unlikely this guy was going to end up being your life partner. So use this as an opportunity to explore life unfettered by the ex and see where it takes you. Don't get bogged down in what ultimately you will see are trivial high school dramas.
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Im a 17yearold guy, in highschool as well.
I had an IDENTICAL situation with my girlfriend last week, like no joke. We were perfect, always talking, texting hours a day, talking on the phone, kissing at school, it was great. But the next day at school, i could hardly recognise her.... she turned into a different person.
But in your case, i really dont understand how a guy is doing it, because we as guys are always the ones pushing for a relationship, not the otehr way around. I personally have been with many girls, and ive never even thought about ignoring them or breaking up with them.
Studies and psycologists have showed that "being friends" after a breakup is nearly impossible.... since there are still feelings there, and its hard as hell to pretend like there are no more feelings when you are trying to be "friends".
from a guy's point of view, i think tyler is just scared of how serious you are. A relaionship is all about the balance of interest. If one person is more serious, the other will back away and find someone who makes him/her more Comfortable.
give him more time, because he probably just needs to get his head in gear, and he doesnt wanna hurt you by dragging you along with his problems, which is why he broke up with you. Give him more time, and if you find out that he is a liar and has been lying about his reason, then he is just a plain-out asshole and theres nothing you can do to change that. Plenty of fish in the sea:) Chin UP!
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