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i think i am in love. but with a girl.
Hello, you have helped me on previous questions i have asked, and i have found your answers very helpfull. however, i think that now i am in love with the girl in my previous question. (Lauren). We went on webcam a few minutes ago, and she started teasing me (in a sexy/strip tease way). i got really aroused and i started to masterbate. she asked me what i was doing, so i told her. then she started doing it too. it felt so nice and right. but at the same time it felt wrong. Please Help Me. Have I Broke The Law? Will I Get Into Trouble? Im Scared :'(
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No, I don't believe you have broken any laws. As long as neither you or your friend recorded the event I believe you have nothing to worry about. Just keep these things accessible to just the two of you.
Just to be on the safe side if the two of you are under the age of consent for your state, I would suggest you refrain from those type of activities on the web. I really do not feel you have anything to be scared of though.
I believe I told you the last time that I felt you are still seeking out your sexuality. When your parents and grandparents, which would include me, were your age, we did not have web cams or the world wide web to use in our sexual experimentation. Most of us would steal copies of dads' Playboy or Hustler magazine, both for inspiration an information. Today the Internet replaces dads' magazine's.
The only advise I can give you about seeking out your sexuality is that there is nothing wrong in doing so; it is part of teenage life. I also said before that giving up your virginity is also something you should not be in a rush to do. Yes, your body is capable of adult love making but you are not yet mature enough for adult love making. To engage in sexual intercourse before you are both physically and mentally, mature, enough to do so will not bring you the pleasure that one should derive for the act of love making.
There is also nothing wrong with masturbation. Most if not all main stream religions, including the Catholic Church, condone masturbation. Masturbation is a safe an pleasant way to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the hormonal changes of puberty.
You may be asking if this is true why do parents tell you it is wrong or even sinful? The only answer I have to that question is that the sexual relief and enjoyment received from masturbation is felt by parents will give way to the full act of love making. Just as long as masturbation does not become an overriding event to the detriment of everything else. While it may be true that masturbation can lead you to take the next step to full adult sexual love making. It also depends on the personal fortitude and how well one can hold out against peer pressure.
Yes peer pressure. Your friends will brag that they have lost their cherry and that you are strange or wrong to hold on to yours. This is not true. Your virginity is a very personal gift not to be traded to some young stud for him to use as a notch on his belt.
I'm not saying you need to wait until your wedding night to surrender your virginity, that is something for you need to decide. What I am saying is that when you do decide to surrender you virginity it should be your choice to do so, with someone who will value your gift; Someone who will be gentle and loving and make it a loving experience for you.
I may have gotten a little of subject. Finding your sexuality is all part of being a teenager and part of figuring out who you are and will be as you move to adulthood. Remember what I said; "What happens in the privacy of your bedroom stays in your bedroom." "Nothing that happens there is wrong or sinful as long as no one gets hurt." If you are with someone else there must be "MUTUAL CONSENT TO ANYTHING YOU DO OR IT IS NOT DONE."
If you follow these rules there is no reason to be truly scared. As for getting in trouble. Make sure to lock your door. I can't guarantee what your parents will say or do if they were to walk in on you or if they get suspicious.
I would hope they would be understanding in that you are growing up and seeking answers as to who you are. I would hope you and mom are close enough that you and she can talk about these thing whether or not she finds out or catches you masturbating or making out with your girl friend.
It may be easier talking to a total stranger like me. I lack one very important piece of information when giving advice to you. That is I don't know you like your mother does. That is why I am saying that I hope you and mom are close enough so that you can talk with her about this. I can see that you have some confusing thoughts about what is happening and mom can be of much better help then I at discussing this with you. I am always here if you want a second opinion. I would really like it if you would talk with your mother or another trusted adult female, who knows you better than I do, about what you are experiencing.
I am always here should you want a second opinion or have any other questions.
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