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Cant decide between my Soldier and a Marine!
Dear lovealways 1221,
I am 18 and a girl. It says to put that...anyways, i have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year, we are happy together but for the past 2 months he has been away at Basic Training for the Army. He still has two months to go and its been killing me, i feel empty and alone without him. Then this past week a friend of mine from the Marines came back from basic (i was going to join the Marines, thats how we met) the most he ever said to me was hi but i messaged him on Facebook to see how things were going and we ended up hanging out, for the past few days we have been either together or texting nonstop, the worst part is not only does he have a girlfriend, but he keeps telling me he wished he has said more than hi to me, and that he is really going to miss me when he leaves, and all this stuff about how he wants to be with me and it sucks we cant be together. Hes not the player type, i think he is just as confused as i am, plus he is in infantry so he is leaving really soon to be deployed, i know its horrible but im going to miss him and i cant stop thinking that what if when i see my Soldier in two months all i can think about is this Marine!? What do i do? Do i chose the Soldier i know will be there and possibly settle, or do i try my feelings with the Marine?
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Ok here's what I think.. my answer i'm about to provide you with is based on a past experience.
Here's what happened to me.
My ex and I were dating for 7 months and things weren't going that well. He wanted a break. So we took a few weeks off and those 2 weeks were hell for me. I missed him so much. Couldn't stop crying and I felt terrible. He said he still had feelings for me but just needed a break to think about himself. I had a feeling that we would get back together but at the same time I missed him so unbelieveably much. It was like a part of me was missing. Anyways, so we took like 2 or 3 weeks break. I went to the beach to relax and I met a guy there. We talked and after a few days we couldn't stop talking. I suddenly realized that I was happy again. Then my ex called me and said he wanted to get back together. Which one to choose? (sound familiar?) I thought about it for a while. Here's what my mistake was.. I lead both of them on. it was a big disaster. I ended up not taking either of them
So to answer your question.. I don't know what you should do. Its really your choice. Its what YOU want. I have no idea what you want.. only you know that. You need to take some time apart from guys, like I did. Focus on yourself and listen to your heart. You have to make this decision. If you still don't know what to do, I wouldn't pick either of them and see which one of them comes to you first.
Don't find love. Let love find you. Thats why its called falling in love. You don't force yourself to fall.. you just fall..
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