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Turning sixteen is a big deal. So why do I feel so unprepared?
I am turning sixteen on Friday. I'm very excited, but I am also afraid. I feel so unprepared. I feel like everyone will expect more from me and I won't be what they want. I feel like I'm missing out on life. I feel like I won't live up to what I want.
I feel like I haven't developed the mind set and experience to become sixteen. I feel like I'm stupid sometimes because I don't have the attitude to be sixteen. My mom complains how I lack in attitude and skill. She complains that I am so scared of everything and unwilling to take risks. Sometimes I feel like she's right.
Is the mixed feeling of sixteen normal at this age or am I just over thinking?
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I just turned 18, and I felt like all of a sudden I should be more mature and more responsible.
Turns out no one really treats you differently at 18. When it comes to age, it's more about the experiences you have had then the actual number. Being 18 doesn't automatically made me ready to live on my own. I'm still dependent on my parents and I have a long way to go.
You can grow up on your own time. As long as you keep up with your school work and other responsibilities, you are doing alright. Maybe get a part time job to learn more skills. Take steps when you are ready, but don't let fear hold you back.
If you want something, and it's in reach, then go for it. Do yourself a favor and take one risk and see what happens.
For me 16 didn't change much of anything except I was able to drive. Your parents will always expect the best from you, no matter what age.
Good luck,
-Abby
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As someone who kinda felt the same way you did not long ago, I'll TRY and put what I found as my own answer into words, but I warn you, it isn't very cohesive and is very long! Haha.
I just turned 16 yesterday and no one suddenly expected more of me. I was kind of nervous about how fast I'm growing older, I think it's normal to feel that way, but you might be thinking a bit too much into it.
Age is just a number. Just keep your cool, no matter what you do you can't hold off your birthday until you're ready for it. Time waits for no one. I read something once in which the guy made some good points--You usually don't "become" an adult and realize it's happening, you just suddenly ARE one, with adult responsibilities... but you're still the same person you always were on the inside.
It's not like you suddenly gain a bunch of wisdom on a certain birthday, even if people expect you to.
15, 16, 35, whether or not you wanna take risks really doesn't have anything to do with your age. I would take more risks when I was 10 than I do now at 16, because at 10 I didn't know the consequences of my actions. You're fine. If you're unhappy with your fears, try and conquer them. You should be fine as long as it's not a fear like "I'm scared to ask where the '__insert word__' is because I'll be embarrassed"--if you have those kinds of fears nip them in the bud right now. From experience I can tell you that the only way to do that is to just force yourself to do what scares you. You'll soon realize it isn't a big deal.
If you're scared to go base jumping or something though, I'm completely with ya on that one! :)
To wrap this up all I can really say is the bigger your world becomes the more risks there are, the more chances to fall there are... but there's also a bigger chance to grow, and to love. From 1 to 100 we're all pretty much the same inside--we're all still figuring this life out... some of us are just a little further along than others.. but our age has little to do with just how far we are.
Experience and age really don't relate to each other as much as you might think. Look at something simple like first kisses--some 12 year olds have made out, but at 16 I haven't even had my first kiss, or held hands. They have more experience in dating, even though I'm older and would be expected to have more experience. I know that's a cheesy example, but do you get what I'm saying?
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