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Your Advice Was Great! Just A Few More Questions?
Thank You So Much! Your Advice really helped me understand some things. I just have some other random questions that will make it completely obvious that im a virgin haha(: so anyways, i asked this in my original question but i still need some clarification on it. How EXACTLY do we know when were done and how do you just randomly stop. I feel like actually SAYING something to signal that i want to stop will ruin the romantic aspect of the whole thing. But then again, i dont want there to be tension between us because we both dont know how to stop, and it just goes way longer than it should. Also, kind of an awkward question. Do both girls AND guys like "moan" when their having sex? And one more, should we be kissing, or just like, kissing all around them and stuff? i feel like just staring at each other will be awkward and not pleasing. Oh, i lied, theres ONE more haha! Whats the best position for first timers? And i mean that based on two factors, which will make it easier, (like, without complication) and which is less painful.
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In your original question you asked that you not be lectured. But based on your questions and follow up questions I feel the need to at the very least make an observation.
I am getting the feeling that you and your boyfriend may be on the very young side of teenagers. By going right to intercourse you two are missing a very important part of sexual maturity.
If neither of you have explored your own bodies through masturbation, which is the feeling I am getting from your questions, you need to do so before you have intercourse. Masturbation allows you to learn about your bodies needs and how it reacts to sexual stimulation. You start with exploring yourself then go onto mutual exploration which later becomes part of foreplay.
Now I don't know what you may have heard about masturbation. A recent survey shows that 95% of us masturbate, that includes adults. Masturbation is not a sin, even the Catholic church condones masturbation, according to the same survey.
You start by locking yourself in your bedroom and getting undressed. Then while laying and your bed you start to caress your breasts and tweak your nipples. You work your way down to your clitoris and gently caress it, then stoke the lips of you vagina and finally fingering yourself. As you do this you will get different feelings of pleasure. You will find out if you get more pleasure from being fingered, called vaginal, or from playing with your clitoris, called being more clitoral.
You continue to play with yourself and build on the pleasure your giving yourself until you orgasm. Not being a women I can't tell you exactly how that feels but it will be as the center of the pleasure your giving yourself resides in your nether region then suddenly explodes.
Your boyfriend does the same thing for himself. Yes, he can stroke his breasts and pinch his nipples and when you two finally make love you can do that to him and even suck on his nipples if he finds it gives him pleasure.
When he gets to his penis he should start to give himself a hand job, or jerk off as most boys call it. While doing so with one hand he should also continue to explore his groin area with his other hand caressing his scrotum and testicles, nut sack and balls, and even caressing his thighs. When he is ready to ejaculate, and he will know as there is no other feeling like it, seamen, cum, will shoot out of his penis in an uncontrollable manner.
Once you have mastered self-masturbated and know your own bodies, then you can move on to mutual masturbation or foreplay as it is better known. Eventually you move on to oral sex which is still masturbation but instead of hands you use your mouth and tongue.
This is a very important part of growing up and learning about sex. It is not necessary to rush into having intercourse. What you need to do is learn what sex is and part of that learning is what I have just described. You will get the answers to all your questions if you don't rush into intercourse.
If you are trying to keep up with your friends who have said they have had sex? Remember one thing. Sex has many definitions and as a friend of mine always says; "It's my story I will tell it my way." Meaning doing what I have described as foreplay qualifies as sex. Sex does not always mean someone has had intercourse. Also some people will tell lies about their sexual activity just to seem cool.
Answers to your last question. You'll will find between you if you want to kiss and stuff when you have "sex". And yes both men and women moan during "sex.
My advice: The longer you wait to have intercourse, the better it will be for you. Remember what I said about boys and their pre-programing and the way they confuse lust and love. Do not let your boyfriend force you into doing something you are not ready to do. He probably is not going to be the man you marry so you can afford to wait before giving up your virginity.
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