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one year anniversary
So yesterday was my one year anniversary with my boyfriend. We were suppose to go out to dinner and go to this park. We didn't because his dad has his money and we had to wait for him and he didn't get back til later in the day. So we postponed it until today. Now its really warm outside and he called me and asked me if I wanted to go fishing with his friends, but I really wanted to go out and celebrate our 1 year. I told him it was whatever he wanted to do. So should I try to get him to go out and celebrate it or go fishing? My feelings will be hurt probably if he would rather go fishing than go celebrate our 1 year.
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You should have been honest with him and said "Ya know, going fishing is nice, but I would rather celebrate our 1 year just the two of us."
What you are doing, by telling him to do whatever he wants to do, is testing him, and that's isn't fair or kind.
He might honestly believe you when you say "Do whatever you want." but that isn't what you mean.
Tell him the truth. He wont know what is important to you unless you tell him. It's okay if your anniversary isn't as important to him as it to you - that is perfectly fine. But he wont be able to make an honest and respectful choice unless you give him all the information, including your feelings on the matter.
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Your boyfriend isn't going to know how you feel unless you tell him.
When he called you and asked you to go fishing with his friends you should have said 'I'd rather celebrate our anniversary, it's important to me and we've already had to postpone it once.' You told him he could do what he wanted, it isn't really fair on him to be mad at him for doing just that.
Yes, it's rather insensitive of him to want to spend time with his friends instead of celebrating your anniversary but men don't think like women and they're certainly not mind readers. To be fair to the boy, he did call you and ask if you minded.
If you really don't want to put off your anniversary plans again then tell your boyfriend you'd rather he didn't go fishing.
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