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Why do I get so many crushes on guys, but there are very few I actually...
Why do I get so many crushes on guys, but there are very few I actually want to date?
There's only been 2 guys that I've met that I'd actually have really wanted to date, in my entire life (excluding celeb guys haha), but with all the tens of other guy crushes I've had I didn't feel they were good enough. So if I didn't feel they were worth being my first boyfirend and all, why would I develop a crush on them?
Like I have a crush on a guy now at school that I don't really know but idk why I just feel a connection with him.. and he's not even that attractive or anything so it really confuses me, cause usually appearance plays some part. I'm not cocky or anything, but I'll admit I have good looking features. cocky is actually a huge turnoff for me.. I almost always crush on quietly confident guys. I don't flirt (at least not consciously) cause I'm afraid of rejection, but also cause I don't want to lead someone on when I don't want to be in a relationship with them. Or do I? Sometimes I kind of fantasize about guys that I don't even necessarily want to date, like this guy on my mind right now. I'm a 17 year old girl.. is this normal? Sometimes I just feel an urge to want to kiss someone or be with someone but I still haven't even reached anywhere near that level.
Once a guy clearly had a crush on me but I thought he was gross, and then once he started liking someone else, I got jealous. What is up with that? I wasn't even doing it on purpose. But he just seemed more mature and everything. I don't even know if I'd have much time for a relationship.. and the idea of heartbreak after getting so far into a relationship is a very foreign and sort of scary thought. But sometimes it's like my body just wants it, though I have many years ahead of me for relationships.
Why am I so awkward in general.. ugh. Especially in the field of "love". I have no legit experience with it. The closest I've gotten to a relationship was like in 4th grade, but were in denial of our crushes on each other. I didn't even know he had a crush on me til years later when a friend told me, like it was obvious. Or maybe I did? Haha Idk that was many years ago. He's changed a lot and I live in a diff place, so w/e. I don't even think about him that way, anymore. Some other crushes are hard to shake, though. Oh yeah he's one of the guys I was talking about that I wouldn't have minded dating. There's another guy.. he has a gf now, and he was seriously like the perfect guy but my family had to move to a diff town, unfortunately. occasionally i still think about him and feel a bit pissed nothing could have happened. ehhhhhhhh
sorry this is just me rambling by this point. any help is greatly appreciated!
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Crushes are superficial things. They're based on stuff like how the person looks, their mannerisms, etc. Basically, they're nice to look at, but you don't really care what's inside their heads.
Whether or not you want to date someone depends on their personality, their goals and aspirations, and all the other things that hide beneath the surface. You have to know someone a little deeper before you want to date them. Most guys I've dated, I haven't had crushes on.
It's perfectly normal to hold back until you really know what you want. Superficial relationships tend to be pretty short and painful. If you wait until you find a guy worth your time and effort, you won't be disappointed.
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I feel like this too sometimes, it's probably just that you're attracted to them but the ones you know better you dig :)
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