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awkwardness
my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year and a half. we're known as the cool couple-we'd been good friends since high school, 50% of our relationship's been long distance, and we're never jealous of each other. and if one of us feels that s/he has found 'the one' and its not with each other, we're cool to let go.
and things have been good between us. and trust is definitely there. it's been pretty much supported by his personality since he's a philosophy&theology major, basically socially awkward, and if he starts talking with people he burns their brains. so i never get worried that he'll cheat on me (most girls stop talking to him the moment he mentions plato or aristotle or piper). He doesn't like physical affection stuff (his ex spent two months trying to tell him that she wanted to hold his hand) and well, I never find it a problem since i so enjoy our more-like-best-friends relationship. so it's been, for me, a very healthy relationship. One problem would be though, that I could tell that we both doubt whether this relationship should be something we go for seriously or just another fling. Even until now I do not know what I really want.
he lives in northern US and me in southern. we text everyday and call often. skype a lot as well. then last week I gave him surprise by flying over to michigan to see him and well, i spent a week there.
I don't know if it was because I didn't see him for seven months that i felt awkward or if he had changed. I could tell he was completely comfortable having me around and was very happy. He's been pulling me into embrace and holding me. and before I left, he hugged me so tight I got scared he'd break me!
I mean, what happened to him? I can so see that he's still the socially awkward guy that I'd known for years but then the way he treats me when I'm physically present is scaring me! and I feel kinda bad that I treated him like other dude and he was just being the sweetest guy ever.
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I'd like to think that he really wants to make your relationship work. Honestly, you guys sound like a really good couple and you guys seemed to have mastered a lot of the fundamentals of a good relationship. You guys know about each other's pasts and you guys fully trust one another. Being socially awkward and having people walk away from you when you speak might be something your boyfriend is used to but at the same time, he might feel that you're the only one who understands him. Therefore, I think he would really want to make this work. Not wanting to hold hands might be something his ex didn't understand but you were fully aware of his reasons. Though I'm sure he understood that it might not be fair to his partner back then in showing that type of physical affection, I'm sure he realizes it's an important factor. I really feel he made this change to show you that he really wants you in his life and he's willing to go out of his comfort zone for you. I mean if you're happy with this change then the best thing to do is to embrace it. If it seems kind of fishy, then it's best to ask him. But judging by the way you described it then I dont think you have to worry.
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