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Whether to break up?
I posted this question about 2 weeks ago: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) You don't need to read it to answer this, but basically I said I was sick of my boyfriend and everything about him. I'm a high school senior, he's a college freshman, we've been together for close to a year and a half. My discontent with him began last May and hit a high when he bought me an eBay ring for Christmas.
I confronted him 2 weeks ago and told him that he barely talks to me or communicates. I thought that communication might fix us. It hasn't. He stepped up majorly, awesomely so. Yet 2 weeks later, I'm still not happy.
I honestly just don't want to be in a relationship with him anymore. I made that decision last week. I barely replied to his texts and managed to avoid our once-weekly 45-minute Skype session and shortened our one night together a week to 2 hours. I told myself that if things were neutral or bad the night I saw him, I would end it the next week (this weekend). Those two hours together, he was the sweetest he's been in months. Legitimately. Lots of hugs, snuggling, kisses on the cheek. Nothing like the disinterest I've received in the past.
Obviously he missed me. But is it really that promising that I have to ignore him for him to show me affection?
I really want to see what a relationship would be like with this kid after I finish a year of college. I don't want this to be over. He's a good person and I love him. But its my senior year and I want to do what makes me happy. I feel like he's tying me down (every single Saturday night I spend just watching movies at his house... every... single... one...) and that I'm tying him down - he travels nearly 2 hours every weekend to come home; if I was removed from the equation, he might do so less often.
A big thing for me too is that I really want to date other guys and experience new situations. This kid was my first boyfriend, and while I'm glad things lasted so long, I feel like I'll never know what's out there and what's better for me if I don't look.
I may or may not want to be with him in the long run, I'm not sure yet. And I'm 17-- I shouldn't have to be sure. So would it be wrong to break up with a "Sorry, try again later"? Or should I just flat out end it? Or should I stay with him until I'm sure? What if I'm never sure???
Oh, and added to the situation, there's another guy who's interested in me, and I get butterflies around him, whereas that hasn't happened with my boyfriend in... a year........
Any personal stories or general advice would help... thanks :)
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i am assuming with your boyfriend being in college you dont see h im very often and that is what is affecting your relationship you want someone who is there and there all the time not just sometimes. think of it this way if you were able to see each other every day how would the feelings be then? i think this other male is getting in your mind hes around your boyfriend is not that is why you are having mixed feelings throwing your relationship away now for someone you dont really no as much as you know you boyfriend is it worth it?
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